Anita Shimmins

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415 appearances 2 recordings 1 series first heard May 2026 last heard 10 Jul

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But Are You Happy? · How To Stop Overthinking What People Think Of You · 10 Jul 2026 podcast

I'm not going to let you guess how to better approach this with me.

I'm going to actually give you a path.

So, you know, in future, I would really appreciate maybe we can have like a little check in once in the day where we can talk about what needs doing so that I'm aware that that's the half hour where we can talk about that.

But I'm not constantly kind of expecting, you know, more comments that I can then take

the wrong way do you think that would be okay can we do it this way yeah I love that yeah that is so effective which is very different from you know all right I'm gonna suppress because I'm really hurt yeah you know you've given me the feeling now I'm not doing the right thing but you know I'm withdrawing I'm angry but I'm not gonna say anything I'm really hurt

or I'm going to lash out at you and say, can you stop saying that for a second?

Like, you know, it's very different.

Yeah.

I mean, you run a risk when you bring up a need and an emotion that the other person then can't take it on from the perspective that you're trying to communicate it.

You can obviously help communicate that, you know, I understand that wasn't your intention at all, but this is how it landed for me.

And, you know, because of how I operate, like I know that this other way would really help me not to.

It gives you the best, it gives the other person the best chance not to take it too personally themselves.

So assertive communication helps with yourself, how your needs, but also respecting the other person's feelings.

Yeah, okay.

i think keep it specific to the situation so don't make globalizing statements because if i'm going to say you always or you never um it's really hard not to take that personally because i'm kind of attacking your whole character or um you know so i'm going to try and make it very specific in this particular situation when you said x it made me feel y and i would really appreciate z right that's different to saying you just are such a disrespectful person in general or

Yeah.

So don't make it about it, about the person as a whole.

And it's sort of undeniable.

Yeah.

That is exactly what happened.

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