Antonio Pascual-Leone

It's about what I don't want.

So what's he fighting for?

That's not so clear.

Right.

What are you fighting for?

What what do you really need?

That part's not clear.

Right.

It's clear he wants distance, but that's not an assertion of of of an existential need, really.

So there's I mean, there are a lot of ways of.

having poor outcomes.

When we look at psychotherapy and you're trying to predict outcome, we generally don't try to predict poor outcomes because there's a million ways of having a poor outcome, lots of reasons why it wouldn't work.

And what's interesting is actually there are a few, a finite number of reasons why people have good outcomes.

And so that tends to be something the focus of psychotherapy research is.

Yeah.

I mean, if we were talking about grief, you know, part of the puzzle is what have you lost?

And people are often thinking about the good things.

What have I lost in terms of, uh,

what I enjoyed about the relationship and will no longer come to pass, right?

This might be the way we used to have the little jokes together or the idiosyncrasies of that person that I cared about.