Aubrey O'Day
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1,063 appearances
30 recordings
2 series
first heard Nov 2024
last heard Jun 2025
Aubrey O'Day’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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That she felt so Loved in his company and she felt he made her feel unlike anyone else. And so she would do these things because it was the only time and chance that she got to really spend in that feeling. That was a hard listen because I think any woman that's ever cared for somebody that may not have that ability or desire to has pandered in one way or another, whether it's a sex party or
bringing themselves down to certain levels that no woman should have to, emotionally saying things, utilizing whatever tool any woman finds herself having as valuable or has been told. Because you have to remember, women see ourselves through the projection of men. You know, since we're young kids, since we're young girls, we're kind of groomed into these social ideas and norms.
I mean, shit, I just turned 41 and people are saying to me, oh, so you didn't want kids. Well, I honestly, I'm just getting to an age where I'm finally free from a lot of chaos and could start thinking about that. I realize that that's troubling for everybody else because it's geriatric and whatever all the titles are. But actually, yeah, I do. I've always wanted kids.
But the answer is already decided for me when somebody comes to me. There's so many social norms that women just accept. And in that instance, I just know that I know what it feels like to yearn after somebody that I really loves attention. And there probably were a lot of ways that I have compromised. No, let me not say probably. There are many ways that I have compromised attention.
myself, not in the same ways as Cassie necessarily, but I don't judge her compromise. A compromise is a compromise. When you compromise yourself, you're doing the same damage. It really doesn't matter in what area. It's all the same. That knowledge of understanding how we compromise for people's love is... is something I believe that will resonate just with everybody.
It certainly had me going through all my relationships like, wow, I thought this relationship was something like this. And I've always narrated it and believed it to be so. But as I start to think about it, there were times that I yearned for this person's attention and there were moments There were ways that I was not true to myself in order to get it. And it's because of all kinds of things.
For me, you know, a bad childhood, not ever feeling like anyone would fight for me. I don't have a mom and dad or anyone to call. And because I spent from my young days to 41 being in this industry, it's not like I made a good friend, like a group of girlfriends. While my friends were doing that in their 20s and 30s, I was uber famous.
So it's not like I have this group of friends that I even go to. So it's just a... I don't know. That was the part of the testimony that really stood out to me as really making me recall a lot of times that I have done that.
And remember what I said to you last time. There's nobody else that I would want to revisit more than him when he is proud of you and when he gives you his attention and thinks that you're great. And if you notice in her testimony, she says, I don't know what the first freak off was. I was drugged. It was weird. I felt dirty. I felt embarrassed. But then he was really proud of me.
And so I felt good. I understand all of those emotions in regards to that man. It's something so many of us can...
I think it would probably be very... I've dated somebody in a very compromising state and position that wasn't necessarily fully open to the world. And so I kind of had to play along with whatever the narratives were. And there's an exhilaration there. The lifestyle that Diddy lives is so extreme in every way. I think that... There could have been an excitement there.
There could have been a fear. There could have been butterflies in your stomach when somebody that powerful wants to experience you in that way. I don't know how she testified to feeling about it. I think she just was like, whoa, that happened. I didn't see that it was bad or good in the testimony. I'm not sure if I missed something there.
But I think it probably made her feel that, like, of everybody around, he wanted her, which maybe made her feel like she was very special.
So I never witnessed a big room of baby oil in my time there. But on set, we were to be lathered and shining, you know? They always used either baby oil or later on down the line, olive oil spray can make you like...
shine shimmer to me I still use it when I do photo shoots because it was a great tool to learn during my time in the beginning making music videos and when you when you shine it looks better on camera to me all of that plays into these visual aesthetics that were pleasing enough for him to be sitting in the corner and jacking off to it
He also made music videos all the time. I mean, this is a man that lived and breathed in the creative space and produced albums and records and music videos and all of the above. I mean, he would come on set, whether we had a full-blown director and everything else. And when he got on set, if he wanted everything a whole different way, that's what had to happen.
Absolutely. That's absolutely accurate. You saw that. Yes. Experienced it many times. It was directed at you. It was on camera. You can watch Making the Band and see a few moments where just a face created a reaction that was.
No, because he wasn't interested in everybody. There were people in my band that he didn't really spend much time even learning their names sometimes.
Yeah, that was not something that anyone in my group did.
Fired on national television and blamed for the entire demise of not only Danity Kane, but the series that was on for seven seasons on making the band on the biggest network at the time that everyone fell in love with. And to this day, if you look it up, it's Aubrey O'Day's fault.
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