Bela Gandhi

A hundred percent.

And so it can be, and through my process, now remember, it's kind of a laboratory.

It's not a laboratory, but we're coaching clients one-on-one, right?

So after every day, their coach is getting their feedback and listening to, okay, what did he say?

Or what did she say?

Okay, what comes next?

Let's think about asking these questions.

And it's okay if somebody, for example, you know, I'll have clients that'll say, well,

She started talking about her divorce, but I quickly changed the subject because I didn't want to put her in an uncomfortable situation.

And I'll say that's really kind of you, but if she put it out there, it's okay to learn more and to be interested and to ask more questions about it.

And so I'm with you.

It's kind of like sips of vulnerability, date by date, right?

We don't want the vomit, like show up and throw up, as I call it, but we've got to have this progressive, are you getting to know somebody?

Are you getting to know where they've been?

For anybody, you need two points on a map.

You gotta know where you are today and where you wanna go.

How did this person arrive at where they are today?

What is their backstory?

And so with our clients, the way we pace things and we have nerdy graphs and things that this is what happens when you take a former finance person and turn her into a dating coach.

We have trajectories of what what healthy relationships should look like.