Bela Gandhi

So we're typically on average saying, let's go 15 dates over three months.

at a gentle upward trajectory where we're really helping them through this discovery process with this person.

And to your point, if somebody isn't willing to talk about things at a certain point, like, no, they just, I don't want to talk about my divorce.

I don't want to talk about this.

It's a bit of a red flag after a certain set of dates.

I can't tell you it's date three or date four or date seven.

It's uniquely human right between these two people.

You mean like how to talk on a phone?

Yeah, yeah.

Yeah, I think the most important thing is to kind of bring your elevator person self and be genuinely interested in the other person, right?

And when you're listening to the other person, you'll get a lot of good conversation between the two of you.

Now, with regards to how to talk about yourself...

Yeah, kind of practice with a friend, call a dating coach, right?

Kind of like you would for a job interview.

Like just if you're feeling anxious, it's okay to feel anxious, right?

When you haven't done this, number one, don't shame yourself.

Dating to some extent, it's a skill, right?

And you're just going to dust off the cobwebs and the rust.

But think about the questions that people ask on first dates.

It's like cocktail party conversation.