Belle Burden

He said to me, I'm going to take care of you.

And honestly, it felt romantic to me to hand it over to him.

He was this man in a gray flannel suit going off to work, and this was how he was gonna take care of our family.

And as you lose touch with it,

For me, I convinced myself that he was better able to handle it, that, oh gosh, it actually was very complicated.

He made it seem very complicated.

It actually isn't.

It's not hard to learn this stuff.

And what I would want, what I ask friends to do is to read your tax returns,

Understand where your assets are, whose name is on each thing, and have the conversation or have some understanding about what will happen if the relationship ends.

Even if you're the most happily married person on earth, you should know what will happen to you if it ends.

Can you tell us about that?

The prenup was a big whisper that I carried with me for the 20 years.

It was still whispering to me.

It was a very standard prenup that my family wanted me to sign because I had some inherited money.

And my money was in trust.

It was protected.

And we had a standard prenup that said, whatever you come into the marriage with remains yours, but whatever is earned during the marriage is split or anything you put in joint name is split.

This is the prenup that my brother signed.

It's very standard.