Benny Blanco
Appearances
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
It is true. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Is he the waiter or is he Andrew again? He's still the waiter.
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benny blanco-gomez
We can't afford premium brand. What are you talking about? That shirt was $9,000.
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benny blanco-gomez
Okay, and I wanted someone who was kind and who actually like... Selena's incredible. When I wake up in the morning, I know what's going through her head. And now what's going through my head too is like, how can we make today the best day for both of us? She's thinking about me.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
And I feel like a lot of times in relationships, I felt like I was always giving and I wasn't getting what I wanted in return. And she's so thoughtful, so caring, so compassionate. So I really wanted someone like that. I basically manifested the perfect person for me. And I want it manifest.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
Our first date? Yeah. Our first date was insane. Okay. So I didn't know we were on a date. Okay. So here's what happened. Okay. Here's what happened. We had like left. We left the studio one day. We start texting.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
I produced with her. And I have for years. For years. For 10 plus years.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
Okay. So afterwards she texts me or no, I texted her and I was like, Oh my God. I was like, uh, I was like, what a great set. I forget what happened, something. And then we start texting back and forth and I'm busy that night. And, and we're just texting back and forth and, and, and,
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
There's never been sexual tension. So you never even thought about it? No, I never, we've always been in relationships. We've always like, there's always, we've never even been single at the same time. Professional mode always. Okay, so we start like texting and somehow we start sending like selfies back and forth. Oh, that's how it starts. It was like a selfie thing. Right.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
there was there was giggling but i wasn't thinking of anything i was just like oh i'm just like we're working on a song it's cool and then she was like uh you want to you want to get some food tomorrow and so okay so before while we were at the session i was talking we were talking about our dating lives and i was like oh my god i know so many great guys why don't you like come to our house one day and like we'll have like a dinner and you can meet some people like i literally wasn't even thinking about it
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
Why do you keep going like this with your hair? Because I'm emo, dude.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
No, they're... I was shopping with my fiance at... Ooh! Now he's changing again. Ooh! Now we were just saying. Why does everyone have to use these mics? Why can't they find a better system? This is one of the best mics in the game. You've been complaining since you've been here, Benny. Yeah. What are you complaining? I wanted you to put on your shirt, and I thought you looked beautiful.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
So she decided to come over and I was like, oh, my friend has a birthday party. Let's go get some drinks first. We went to my friend. My friend has a bar called Stir Crazy. It's like a wine bar. We like went there first. And then we went to Jitlada was where my friend was having. You know that place?
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
It's delicious. Jazz. She runs it. I love jazz. I love jazz too. No, her name is jazz. Okay. Keep going. You like it?
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
Okay, so we're just sitting there and then she's like, or no, first we're at the wine spot and she said, oh my God, if this was a, she was like, man, I would have worn something different for this date. And I was like, we're on a date? And then she was like, what? And then I was like, and I was so confused. And then she didn't bring it up again. And then we're like hanging, having the best time.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
Yeah, after the date, right? Yeah, I'm so clueless. Wow. So then we're on our, we're like second date, we're just chilling at my house and we're like- Who organized the second date? You said come over? I think she was like, let's hang out again. It was so casual and it was so, and I was like, I'm so, I'm so- dumbfounded that she could ever even like me.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
Then I'm like, oh, okay, yeah, let's hang out again. So we're at my house, and we're playing this little game, and it's like these cards you pull out.
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benny blanco-gomez
Almost 20 pounds. Really? Yeah, 15. And how long will you do it till you have no torso left?
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
Second date, she comes over to my house. We're playing the game. How many people are there? No, it's just me and her. Oh, my God. It's just me and her. Wow. And still in this moment, I'm just like, I'm like, I'm not even thinking about it like that for some reason. She's at my house. There's this game. And in the game, it says, take a selfie with the person next to you.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
I was the only one next to her. So she like comes up towards me and like is on my chest and takes a selfie. And then I was and I said, oh, my God.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
and then I turned oh my god what let him do it oh sorry and I was like oh my god and then I just kissed her immediately and that was our first kiss it has to be a 95% you know what I mean you have to be 95% higher 99% sure with Selena Gomez you do with Selena Gomez yeah how did you know it was 99% I felt it When you feel it, you feel it. Really? Yeah, I felt it. Yeah, he felt it.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
That's never happened to me before. Wait, have you read it wrong many times in your life? No.
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benny blanco-gomez
Every time I read it wrong. Not every time. I think there's six to eight in your life.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
You don't like these mics? As someone who is a professional. No, I do like these mics, but I don't understand why there's not a version at this point where it's like we're like,
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
No, because we're both so busy. But very, very quickly, we realized, you know, when like you first start dating someone, you're like, oh, I can't give them all my time. But then very quickly, like it's like, oh, I have an hour free here. I'll hang out with them. Oh, I have this time here. And very quickly, we realized that we were I have a little go fever. Yeah. Very quickly.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
I realized we were like inseparable and no, I love. Yeah. And I met my best friend who said, who said, I love you first. She did. She said it so many times by mistake. Even.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
She was getting like, uh, um, I forget. She, she was getting like dental work or something. Something happened and she was like a little woozy and, uh, as she was coming to, she was like, I love you. And I was like, and I, and I, and I, and I, I was so scared. So I didn't, I didn't say it back. I didn't say it back.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
And then one time she was, her and Taylor Swift were at a sushi restaurant and they were sending me a voice memo and they were like, Oh my God, this is so much fun. We miss you. We wish you were here. And she was like, we love you. And then just like, she literally said, we love you. And then it was like, and then it ended. And then I was waiting. I knew we were taking this trip to New York.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
You like Southwest? Yeah. Every time this guy has to go to New York, he has to drive. He's like, I'll be there in three days. Yeah, I drive. I do. I take a boat to Europe. Are you being real?
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
Be honest with me. I haven't flown. I haven't gotten on a plane since 2000. Oh, I got on a plane, but I got off of it. I haven't successfully flown on a plane since 2018. And before that, 2015. Before that, 2009. So you really drive to places. Yes, and I take a boat. But I just decided two days ago that I'm going to fly again. Thank you. I just decided.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
I was in the shower, and I was sitting on the ground in the shower. I sit on the ground every time I get in the shower.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
And I said... I said, how? What? That's funny. Yeah, it's insane. What? It's insane. You don't ever sit on the ground in the shower. What? What? No. In the bathtub? In the tub. No. No. In the shower. Sit on the ground. Let it wash over you. Sometimes I actually lay down and let the water shoot into my asshole.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
That's where all the good ideas come from. It feels so... Okay, so I was just sitting in the shower and... I was like, how old am I? I'm 36. And I said, fuck. I said, you know, someone died recently and they were like 90. And I was like, Jimmy Carter. I was like, that's I was like, I was like, shit, I only get to live my life like two more times.
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benny blanco-gomez
I was like, I'm going to die and I'm not going to get on an airplane. I was like, I should just get on an airplane because I might die on that. I might get cancer tomorrow. I might. I don't know.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
2018? No, I was in New York like a month or two ago. And you drove there from L.A.? I was in New York in December, and I'm going back in two weeks. And you're driving there? Yeah. Okay.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
I've been a few times by flight, but many times by boat. Wonderful. So you do fly, sir?
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
Yeah. Did you, when you were younger, are you finding it that you're getting girls easier now or when you were younger?
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
I know, I know. Well, okay, okay. Here's, here's, here's what it is. She's like a homebody. Like her favorite thing to do. Let's not talk about a woman's body on the show.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
Everybody got blowjobs in high school. I never got one. Not in high school?
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
I know, I'm shaming. Yeah. Her body's like a house. It's a big, burly house. No, she just likes to chill at home. So do you, though. Yeah, yeah, I'm like a big chiller. Like, I don't want to go to, like, we're not going to... Like, we want to, like, chill at... That's us every night.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
Wait, are any of you guys sober? No, you're not. I'm in the program. Okay, okay, okay. Are you in the program? I'm not, I'm not.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
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Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
Go ahead. I don't even know what I was talking about. Yeah, you do. Oh, oh, oh. Yeah, you do. Alcohol. Okay. When I was like... Until like 31, I could drink the entire night, sleep zero, go to bed at 5 a.m., wake up at 6, like work a full day. Now I have like two drinks and I feel like hungover for three days. And I just can't. I can't take it. Why don't you get in the program?
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
We were at home and he was contemplating changing schools. Yeah. Changing schools. He should have done it. Yeah. Okay. Genders. Okay.
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benny blanco-gomez
I mean, fast forward. This man goes through puberty and his cock becomes huge. Love this.
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benny blanco-gomez
He's got like a he's got a fucking python in his pants. It's thick. It's huge. How do you know? You know, we all know. How do you know?
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
Yeah. Everyone. Yeah. You know, you know. You know. Okay. So he's in college. He's at a party. Same girl.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
Wow. And he said it was like the best performance. He's like, usually I'm terrible at sex. He's like, it was the best performance I had ever done. Yeah. And he said, as he's leaving, she's like, the next day he's leaving. And he just goes. As he walks out.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
Where a guy like comes up and hits you on the back. Touching you in the bathroom is insane.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
You know what happened to me? Yeah. The other day. It's happened to me so many times. The guy's just pissing and starts talking to me. And then after he talks to me, he gives me a high five with his dick hand. Not necessary.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
I mean, act. What the fuck? I saw him on, I like that, Call Me By Your Name. That movie. The movie from four years ago?
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benny blanco-gomez
You're so... I usually don't like those type of biopics. They're usually kind of corny.
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benny blanco-gomez
That's the one I saw, and I was like, oh, I still can, I can, I'm like, I was right, I can't see these again. Because that one was a little corny. Yeah, they're just like, they're, as someone who like, I really love like all documentaries, like Dylan's documentary, incredible.
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benny blanco-gomez
And I love, for me, it's just like- Okay, the type of movies that turn me on and turn me off, I don't love those super Hollywood biopic things. I don't love action movies. They're not my favorite type of- What do you watch? Nothing. Okay, I love a movie that's gonna rip my heart out, or I love a- Amelia Perez. No, but I also love like Force Rejoice, Triangle of Sadness. Force Rejoice is so good.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
Triangle of Sadness is good. Yeah, I love those type of movies. And I like like... How about horror? I do like, I like some horror. Okay. And I like... You're good. And I really like, what's it called? Because horror is different than action. It's like more, it's like actions like that. Like horror, you're like, horror, you're like, whoa, like they really did.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
It's not just like a really good horror movie is like so beyond. It's a mindfuck.
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benny blanco-gomez
Okay. The Hulk. Yes, so you do know. Yeah, you know. Wait, really? Yes. I just guessed. Are they actually Spider-Man and the Hulk? They're in the Avengers, yeah.
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benny blanco-gomez
I've only seen... Copyright. I've only seen... I think I've only seen one Marvel movie.
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benny blanco-gomez
Spider-Man, it's gotta be. Oh, is that Marvel? Okay, then I saw the original Spider-Man.
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benny blanco-gomez
And then, oh, I've seen two. I saw the one, the animated one. The open verse or whatever. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I saw that. Okay. I went with someone's kid to that one. Let's clarify that story. Yeah.
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benny blanco-gomez
When I was a kid, I saw Star Wars in school. Like we had to watch it in school. But that's the only time you saw it? Only time I've ever seen it. That's so fascinating. I've never seen Lost. I've never seen. That's nothing to do with fucking superheroes.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
He made some Star Wars. Okay. Yeah. Oh, okay. And then I've never seen, what's another big, one of those movies?
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benny blanco-gomez
I've never seen Game of Thrones. Wow. Not one episode? Just one episode when Ed Sheeran was at my house and he wanted to stream it because he was in the episode. It was the only episode I ever saw.
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benny blanco-gomez
No, Mayo's cousin, I would say. Yeah, yeah. What would you watch? I would say, let's watch Amelia Perez, I Miss My Wife. She was good in it, I heard. Yeah, she's great.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
I can't even get a commercial agent. Yeah. Yeah, mustard doesn't get a lot of work in this town. And I love, I really love, like, the, like, slapstick comedy that's just gonna mine this. Oh, Naked Gun.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
And I also love, like, I love, like, like, like, Early Days of Seth was so good. I loved Superbad, all that shit. Oh, right, right. Love that. And then, and then, yeah, otherwise I want to watch, like, an indie, like, my mom took me, when I was a kid, I was watching, like, we were going to see, like, The Squid and the Whale. Like, you know what I mean?
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
Okay, okay. My family, like very important shows growing up that we watched as a family, we watched Sopranos, The Wire, Curb Your Enthusiasm, and Seinfeld. That's great. Those were our, and my parents both have pretty good tastes in stuff. I'm also obsessed with any mafia movie. So like, I'm a- Scorsese.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
I was actually just rewatching, I had COVID like two months ago and was rewatching so many movies and I'm just like, oh, I'm just like, I forgot like how good Cape Fear was. So good. Oh my God. And I was just, I was going through like all my favorite movies and like all like, you know, like, A Bronx Tale, all those old movies. Those movies are so perfect. Bronx Tale is so good.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
What's your favorite gangster movie? Probably either Casino or Goodfellas. That's everyone's two.
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benny blanco-gomez
Okay, why are you looking at me like that? He's a pro. I don't know what the fuck you're doing, Benny. That's why I'm looking at you. I have an album coming out. With My Better Half. We're doing a joint album. Yeah. Clap more for her, not me.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
Selena and Benny? It's called Selena and Benny. Really? No. Wait, wait, wait.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
What do you mean? Anything's possible. It's possible. All right. Kentucky Lightning. That's it. That's really good. That's really good. How did he get it? That's really good. No, it's not Kentucky Lightning.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
Which one? So when does the album drop? I think it's already out by the time.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
It's out right now, go check it out on everything. This is the future, so it's already out. Well, we are living in the future.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
It happens, it happens. Well, Benny is- It does. I come from, my family is- He's a child of fetal alcohol syndrome. No, I'm- I can already tell. I can tell already. Don't bring that up.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
Is it? No, no, no, no, but it wasn't. Romantically. Yeah, it wasn't romantically before. Well, what is it now? Romantically. No, but it didn't change the work relationship. Well, you guys just hook up mid-session? Yeah, we're just mid-session hookup. No, it's actually better because we can... I know her so well now. We can say, we can speak so freely to each other and really...
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
If we're sitting in bed, I'll be like, oh, actually that thing we did earlier, I thought it'd be better if we did it like this. And then she'll be like, oh, I either like that or I don't. And we can just talk about it. Some things you might walk on eggshells a little bit more when you're working with an artist you don't necessarily know that well. And I think it's so much better.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
And we've been able to like... You can say whatever you want. You can talk about... There's no rule. It's like... you know how in comedy, like you might say a joke. That's something that you would never say in real life, but it's the art of the joke. That's why you're saying like, it's not how you actually feel about a person, but you're saying it because you think it's funny. Right.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
And in music, it's the same thing. Like you can say something like, let's say I was talking about like someone from my past or she's talking about from someone from her past in a song. If you can like talk about that way more than like talking about, you know what I mean? Like, so it's, it's, it's like therapy and it's, I found it to be,
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
much easier to work with her than I've worked with anybody else, I think.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
Why can't he fit in it? He's saying that I'm fat. I think you fit in that easily. Thank you, Benny. Do you actually think he can't fit in it?
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
Right, right. Like, just be cracked? What are you doing? He's moistening, dude. It's not making them moist.
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benny blanco-gomez
I like the way you did that. I can't do that because I'm stuck in a plastic chair in between. Here's my unicorn.
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benny blanco-gomez
Korean unicorns are different. No, no, no. I don't think that's the unicorn. I think that's him on top of the unicorn.
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benny blanco-gomez
And why have you been out of breath? I smoke cigarettes. So you're just out of breath all the time? Why does everyone come out here nitpicking all my frailties? Okay, wait. I'm a unicorn.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
That's actually cool. Okay, now when you're at Shake Shack, is he coming? Yeah, he's coming. Of course he's coming. You guys want something to drink? Yeah, yeah. He works in every restaurant. And I'm like, oh my God.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
How do you know? How do you know? Because I'll go on their Instagram. It took you like 40 years to make. It takes everyone so long. Benny, let me ask you something.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
Family upbringing though. This is, I always talk about any, No, no, because my mom always says this. She always says, she's like, before I started dating Selena, she would always say, I want you to be with someone from a good family. And then I don't agree with that. My mom was from a shitty family. Like my mom has a terrible, I don't, you don't get to choose who your parents are.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
Sometimes your parents are dickheads. I don't know. I don't believe, I believe that they should have like a, a close relationship with like someone in their family. But I don't think you have to be best friends with all your family. It's great. If you are, it's fucking amazing. But most people's parents are divorced. Most people, you know, they're, I don't, I don't know.
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
Okay, let's see. It fits. It fits perfectly. Fits good. It's perfect.
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benny blanco-gomez
Your parents aren't divorced. My parents are both are the divorced. Oh, they are? They are the divorced. Do you talk to your dad? I speak to my dad.
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benny blanco-gomez
Stop pointing at me when you talk to me. Okay. What's wrong with you? No, he has arthritis.
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benny blanco-gomez
You've never camped before. I actually did a couple months ago. No, he did.
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benny blanco-gomez
Oh, okay. But he doesn't. But you want to know that if you do go camping and you light a fire, your imaginary Mayo girlfriend won't have trauma from that. This all adds up to me. It all adds up.
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benny blanco-gomez
He's the waiter, man. He just has to stay here? Yeah, yeah, yeah. I don't have a choice. He does tip me very well. I guess so. Yeah, okay. What are some of your check marks? Okay, I had- Give me your check marks. Okay, okay. I did, because before I met Selena- How'd you meet her? We've known each other for like 15 years. But I'm saying, before we started dating, I remember being like, fuck, like-
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
Wait, are you actually on Ozempic? Yeah, I am. Really? Not Ozempic. He's on the other one. Manjaro.
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benny blanco-gomez
I keep doing the same thing over and over again. Like I'm just dating. I'm doing this. And my therapist was like, you got to make a checklist. He was like, you got to make a list of the things you want and need. And I had a checklist. And OK, you want to know what mine were?
Bad Friends
benny blanco-gomez
That was all of them. Really? What was the checklist? That was it. No, really, what was it? No, the checklist was I wanted, I said 30 or over for me. Right. 30 or older. That's what I wanted at the time. That's how I felt. 30 plus. I wanted someone who was passionate about something. They didn't have to make money or anything, just that they have a passion and they're going towards something.
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benny blanco-gomez
I don't care what it is. If they were like, I do those little paper football things and I'm the best at flicking it through like this, I would say, you keep doing that, babe. Whoa, hey, this is my dream woman. I didn't get mad at you when yours was mayo made of sand, okay?
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The next time we hung out, it was, it was, we just hung out at home and we just like, we're chilling and we were playing that game. We're not, we're not really strangers. And my, my friend made that game. And we were just playing it and we had both played it. And I was like, okay, sure. We can play it. And we played it. And there was like a card that said, like, take a selfie together.
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And we like took us out. She's like, screwed up. We took a selfie. And then right after the selfie, we just kissed. And then, no, that's it. And then she's very private. And then, and then basically the rest was history. And we started hanging out so much. And it just like very quickly, I was like, oh my God, my whole life, I was like, oh, this is my person. Like, I'm gonna marry this person.
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This is, oh, this is the thing. This is what it feels like. It was so different than any of those feelings. And I was like, holy shit. I just, I met my best friend. This is my best friend. Nothing gets any better than this. It can't get better. There's no, this is my, this is like better than any friend I have that's a guy and I get to kiss them. Like, it was like, it was insane to me.
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So I was like, I can't let this go. And it was so funny because before I met her, I, with my therapist, I had made a list saying like, these are all the things I want. Tell me the list. You want to know it?
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Okay, okay, okay. So before I met her, you know, I was a guy in LA trying to find the one for me, and I was having some trouble, and I think I was maybe not looking in all the right places. I was like, okay, it's time to be a grownup. Like I want to like start a life. I want to have a family. I want to find a person that like is my other half that makes me feel better.
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And I make them feel better. And it's a give and take. It's the perfect yin and yang. So I wrote down a list. And the first thing on my list was age appropriate. Okay. Okay. So that was, and it was 30 plus.
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So I was number one on my list.
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Not number one, but it was the first thing I wrote.
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And then the second thing I wrote was I said, I know these are so simple, but it's so hard to come by somebody who's kind, compassionate and caring. I was like, that's really three in one, but that was my, but I was like, I need someone who's like nice and is like a genuine nice person.
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When you're a pop star like she is and you're a huge entity and people set up all these walls before and then the first second you like disarmed everybody.
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I feel like it all happens for a reason. I feel like maybe me doing that is what disarmed her enough to like, you know, it's, we talked about this before. Like if we would have met each other when we were younger, it would have never worked. It's like, we've both grown as individuals and met at the perfect time. And I believe life is like that. And sometimes it doesn't make sense.
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And sometimes it's not, the right reasons. And we're like, why is this happening? But I always believed that I, you know, I don't know. I believe in fate. I believe in all that. And I believe, you know, If you're good to people karmically, it's going to come back to you 10 times over. Maybe you might get in that moment and someone's going to do you really dirty.
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But over a long period of time, I think things are going to go your way.
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That was one day. Like, like everything really happened within. And then look, there was, once we knew that we liked each other, there's that part where like, you know, we're both extremely busy people. So it's like, It takes a second to where you fully prioritize, you know, because it's like at first you date someone, you say, okay, I'll see you this time once a week.
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And then it's like, oh, okay, this person's getting cool. We'll go twice a week. And it's like, wait, don't leave my house. I miss you. Like it all happens so quickly.
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I feel like at the beginning, there were a few almost sabotages. She didn't like, she was like- That's fair. At the very beginning, in like her first few trips away, she was still gaining that trust. So there were moments-
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No. Yeah. Yeah. And we all have, that's normal. We all have moments in our life because like, we're only made up. I tell everyone this.
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It's like when you, when you start dating someone, you're not only dating them, you're dating every single person they've ever dated, every single relationship they've ever had in their past, every, because you're getting every piece of baggage that that person's carried in that what they've learned through their own personal life, through the life with partners, with their parents, with this, that, um,
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I had to find a way to build that trust with her, not make it feel overbearing and make it feel real and make her actually believe it and vice versa. Like I know that she fully tried. If I say, hey, I'm just going to do this today. There's nowhere in her mind that's thinking that. If for any chance that she, I always told her, I said, it's okay.
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If you have moments of doubt in something, in a feeling, always talk to me and I'll talk you through anything that you may have. You know, if you say, hey, I know this is a crazy thing. I just had a dream and I woke up from this dream and I was upset. Sometimes she'll just say like, please tell me I can trust you or please tell me you're not doing anything stupid.
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And I say, you can call me anytime you want. And I'm aware. of her strengths and I'm aware of her weaknesses. And what I try to do is surround her with a lot of things to help her. So if she's away and I have to go to a dinner, then a party, then this thing, then that thing, it's a simple text in between each things that says, Hey babe, I'm going to this next thing. I'm thinking about you.
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If we would have met each other when we were younger, it would have never worked. We've both grown as individuals and met at the perfect time, and I believe life is like that.
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Hey, you know, you know, where, where couples, where it starts to hit is when they miss that text. They don't call the person. They wait until the next day. Like, it's just like, I know what she needs to succeed. So I'm gonna help her succeed. I'm not gonna be a dick. I'm not not gonna hit her up. And she doesn't need a lot. She's like the easiest person in the world.
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But I know, yeah, she wants to talk to me before she goes to bed. She wants me to say, I love you. She wants me to text her if I wind up having to stay somewhere two hours late. Just a simple take out your phone and done. And I know that, no, I know that stuff. It really helps, especially when you're long distance because it's natural. You're far away from someone.
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You say, I'm not with this person. I'm not as connected to them. We're not meant to be. You're not supposed to be long distance with your partner. You're supposed to be right next to your partner. It's like we do things in life that we have to do. And we both are very focused on our careers and we're very driven. And you have to find a way to make it work that's comfortable.
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You have to talk to your partner. You have to understand them. I think people's biggest problems, especially men, are that We don't listen all the time. You got to listen. Just shut up and listen. Listen to what they're saying. A woman is going to tell you exactly what she needs. Like when guys are like, I don't know what she wants. I don't know. She told you already. You're just an idiot.
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You're not listening. Just listen. If a girl is getting frustrated with you on something, she's definitely told you multiple times and you're just not paying attention. So it's like, just listen. and don't be reactionary, proactively do these things.
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I don't know if you do the same thing, but when, when you're away from your partner, you just try to think of little things that's going to make them feel more comfortable, better. You know, I'm, I'm on the other hand, I'm like living on the moon. So it's like, she doesn't have to really do anything because I'm like, I'm all in on, on everything with her. And, I fully trust her in every capacity.
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And my whole life, I've always been like this. I trust everyone until they give me a reason not to. Okay. And I trust people to be who they are. Okay. And so far, I know who she is. So until further notice, that's how I'm going to treat her. You know what I'm saying?
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Yeah. That's my thoughts on it.
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I remember there was a time we didn't want this to be like a public thing because unfortunately for Selena, her life is always under the spotlight, being scrutinized at every moment and this and that and for good, for bad. And I remember sitting with her and we'd been seeing each other secretly for months and months and months. And we were about to go to New York and
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we just made a conscious effort that we were like, we don't want to do this anymore. We want to be able to go out and have fun and like, and, you know, just live our lives. And at that point I knew that it was serious enough to dive in. Like, like that.
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I was like, okay, I don't care what comes with this because I love this person so much already that like, we literally said, I love you on that trip. She had already said, I love you to me a few times.
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Yes, she said it.
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OK, OK. She was she has a plate in her hand because she she had like an accident and she was like coming up from.
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Yeah, she was had surgery or something. She was coming out of anesthesia and and she was like sitting there and she was like. I love you. And then I was like, what? And she was like, and she was like, I love you. And I, I don't remember. I didn't say anything back yet because I was like, I can't have this be the first time.
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And then one time she was with her friends and they were at dinner and she was like, Oh, we really wish you were here. We love you. I mean, and then just hung up. Like it literally was like, and then she started wanting to really say it. And she was like, It was right when I was going to do it. It was the same night. And I was like, hey, let me get my stuff out.
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And I was like, please, just let me. Because I had, it was like, I had felt it. And I was about to do it. And I was like, I want to wait till New York. So it's special. Be in my house. Like, it'll be a good thing. And then the day I was doing it, she was like, she like couldn't take it anymore. And she said it. And then we said it. And the thing that's crazy is, you know, Thank you.
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Thank you.
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Thank you.
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Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
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Well, it's just like when you're an adult, it's like, I have my people. And that's like, well, I have to let a new person in. Like you barely have time for your people that you have. So you're like, wait, in order to get a new person, I have to like move another person down the list to slot a new person in.
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Because there's not, you know, you start to get to an age. It's like, Larry David always says this. He says, I have friends that I'm not even friends with. I've just been friends with them for so long. I can't let them go because they're already built in. It's like a therapist. They already know everything. You can't teach a new person.
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if someone's coming at you with a certain energy, you're already gonna buck back. Like she always comes in a way where she's like, well, I didn't like this because of this, this and this. I'm like, she just said it so nice that I have to, I'm like, no, cause I'm like, shit, I have to approach this in a different way because she came at it with such class and effort.
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So like, I'm not gonna come back at her like that. I'm gonna come back at her and say, well, I agree with what you're saying or, you know, I disagree and here's why, you know? And that's how we talk through everything. And then another thing was I really wanted a person That when I wake up, I think to myself, I'm like, how can I make Selena's day better?
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Like how, what can I do in my day to make her day better? Because then that makes my day better. And I wanted to find a person like that. And I know when Selena wakes up, like the first thing she's thinking is like, how can I make his day better. And we have such a give and take. Like I could never even see a world where I would ever yell at her. She would ever yell at me.
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Sidney disagrees.
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Like we don't argue like that. Like I feel like, I feel like we just have conversations. Like there's never an argument. Sometimes she'll say, this is so funny.
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No, no, no. She'll do this and it's really cool. She'll go, I'm feeling a little irritated and I think I need like 25 minutes. And I'll say, okay. And then I give her her space. And then after like five minutes, she texts me. She's like, hey, will you come back? But it's knowing that and we have the proper boundaries set with each other. Like I don't have to be on top of her every second.
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She doesn't have to be on top of me every second we're together. I just want to know she's in the house so I can say like, Hey, I love you. And then go back to what I'm doing. You know what I mean? Cause look, we're both highly independent people. Okay. But we're both little mushes who just need to be attached.
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Yeah. But it's like, but I feel like, I think it helps us too, that we're both, you know, on my list. The thing was, I wanted someone to be driven and inspired by something. I didn't care if they made any money or anything. I just wanted someone to be so into something that they did every day.
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And when she comes back from her day and she tells me what she did, I'm like, I'm not sitting there like, yeah. Like when you're talking to your mom, you know, when you're talking to your mom and you just say, your mom just keeps talking and you go, yeah, uh-huh, yeah. Like she comes back and like my eyes light up because I see the enthusiasm. I see what she did. And I'm like, it inspires me.
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And I'm like, I got to do more in this thing. And it's like, we're in this place where we're inspiring each other. And we're so inspired by what the other person's doing. And she'll help me out. She'll be like, well, what if you did it like this, this and this? And I'm like, And then she'll say something and I'll be like, well, why don't you handle the situation?
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I feel like you get guarded as you get older a little bit. Sometimes I wish I weren't as wise because when you, I'm not wise at all, but I'm saying like, it's like when you listen to something like for me, for music, I listened to things when I was like 18 and I was like, oh my God. I didn't know any of the rules. I wasn't thinking of anything.
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Because we have such different personalities that are also the same, but the thing that one of us is really good at, the other one maybe lacks a little bit and vice versa. And it's so cool to be able to like workshop like little conversations or how to handle a situation. And I just feel so comfortable with her, like that I can say anything and she won't ever say anything I don't know.
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I love the maturity.
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Some people, I get it. They want to talk about it right then. They want to, the one thing that also works for us so much is like, we're not chill people, but we're like, we're not, we're never going to get, I like, I'm not going to yell at anyone in my life.
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And you know, I came from a home where a lot of that was happening and, And I saw like at a young age and I was just like, well, like my parents weren't speaking the same language. Obviously they were speaking the actual same language. They weren't speaking the same language to each other to communicate.
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And if someone comes at you like hostile right away, the first thing I'm going to do, and I know she's going to do is shut down. So you're not getting anything. You know, and I always say this, the guys are so quick to like, They got to win. They got to win the argument. And it's like, what are you doing? What are you winning? Like, you're going to argue with your wife and like make her cry.
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It all comes so easily because you're not confined to like this box that you've put yourself in over the years. And then by the end, you're like, oh, you know, I'm 36, almost 37. I'm like, oh, I can't do that. And it's like there is some sort of freedom to being really young, too.
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And then you're like, I won that argument. And then she hates you and resents you. Like, wait, like, don't be an idiot.
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Well, it's also just a different thing because it's like, look, none of us are perfect. Like she gets spicy sometimes. And when I see something happening, it's about guiding the missile, not adding a jet pack on top of it with like machine gun artillery. Like I want to make, if I see her getting to a place where I'm like, man, Bye. And five minutes from now, this room could explode.
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I'm never going to let it get to that five minutes from now. I'm going to say, what are all the tools that I know that work for her that I've learned over? Like, I'm not going to exacerbate a situation. I'm going to try to calm it down because why do I want to be in that position where we're both just like upset about something? I don't want to just calm it down and tell her what she wants to hear.
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I'm not saying that. I'm not saying like to your partner, be like, yes, you're right. You're totally right. Like everything you know. I think you listen and you say like, okay. Like sometimes I even, I'll say like, let's not let it get there. Let's like just talk about this. And I do think... physical touch is always like a very big way.
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Like if you're in a conversation with your partner, like it's like sometimes just like a hand helps or just holding their hand while you're telling them or giving them a hug while you're telling them. And if someone's upset, let them talk it out first.
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And then after they talk it out, be like, okay, well, here's what I think, you know, and you can work through these things together such an easy way.
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It's not always easy. I can tell you that. And sometimes we just, someone wants to be frustrated. And it's like, sometimes she'll tell me that. She'll just be like, I know it's going to be okay. But like, I just want to be frustrated in this moment. And I'll have to redirect because I'll be like, you know what? You have every right to be in this moment.
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And she'll say, this is why, she said, this is why I want to be frustrated in this moment. She said it the other day about something. I can't even remember. And I was just like, oh my God. I was like, yeah. I was like, that makes so much sense. I was like, I don't agree with the frustration. We'll get there afterwards. And I was like, but I get it. I get it. And it's so cool.
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And I've never quite had a relationship before. like with her. And we're the furthest thing from perfect in the world. We're perfect for each other. We're not perfect for everyone else. But I think the thing that's cool is that we've had all these experiences. I've had all my experiences where it wasn't right.
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And I'm like, oh, okay, I'm going to change that the next time, you know, with this person or with that person. And I think that's when you really grow. When you take all your experiences, good or bad, like I'm like her, I take every experience in my life, my past partners, my family, my everything. It's like everything happened for a reason.
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And I'm not going to sit here and mope about like things that could be better or different. What I'm going to do is I'm going to say, okay, I learned this and now I'm going to put it into practice.
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And I'm not saying, I'm saying men or women. Sometimes it's not about fixing. You know, everyone is, you know, I'm such a problem solver and you are too. So it's like your first thing. I know the first thing in your head is like, how can I fix this situation? But sometimes it's not about fixing it right there. Sometimes it's about just like, you know, especially for women who are like,
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strong, like both our partners, they don't have a lot of time to be vulnerable in all the areas of their life. They have the world on their backs. Your wife has, there's so many people that rely on her. There's so many people that rely on her. So sometimes they just want to complain about something and that's okay. That's okay.
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Who else are they going to do it to? They might as well do it. And you, and you just listen.
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I wasn't nervous until one second before. I was so not nervous. I was doing work until one second before. I was approving masters for an album that was coming out that night. And then right when it happened, right when it was about to happen, I said, oh shit, what the fuck am I going to say? And I'm so good with words usually. I can't remember anything.
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If we didn't have a video of it, I wouldn't even remember what I said. You know, I had known I was going to propose to her for so long. And, you know, I never cared about marriage. It wasn't a thing in my head. She cared about it so much. So I said, well, now I care about it because she cares about it. And I found myself not even thinking it was going to be a big deal till I was there.
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And then I said, holy shit. Getting married now. And in the moments leading up to it, it's not really real until it's real. I remember it was so special for me because it was special for her. And then it was, yeah, she said the two times you said that were the best things in your life were that. And then when I got you, what a burger.
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16.
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So she was 16. Wow, I didn't realize it was that long ago. And I'm like four or five years older than you. So I was probably 20, 21. And her mom was trying to gather into music and her mom is a... the way she goes from room to room, gets things to happen.
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No, didn't keep it warm. Did you reheat it? Yeah, what I did was I got all the parts to it and talked to the people there and figured out how I could reheat it the best way. And I was reheating it in all different ways, putting it together. And then, yeah, brought it to her. Because to me, someone like Sel could have anything in the world. The best thing you could do.
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And she said it right after she said, right when I gave it to her, she said, I can't believe you listened and remembered my order and remembered all these things in such an easy way. And then you just did it. She said, that's what makes this gift so special is that you actually like listened to the things and it goes such a long way.
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That's brilliant. I was just thinking something so crazy. Did you know we were born within 10 minutes from each other? Yeah. Really? Yeah.
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No, no, no. Place.
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Yeah, I was born right near her. Like 10, 15 minutes away.
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No. No, he can't claim. No, I don't claim Texas.
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No, I was born in Texas, but I grew up in Virginia.
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She claims Texas.
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Yeah. Do you remember your proposal?
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Gets things to happen. And, you know, and somehow she got us a meeting together. And we don't remember that. And, you know, after we had done songs together, there was one time where... it was probably 2016 or 17 or something. I remember when you were in a studio, like Interscope Studios. And I remember I came, she doesn't remember it, but I remember I came in and I had this talk with you.
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When did you have the podcast?
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And wasn't she on like your first ever episode?
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I'm just happy she said yes. I don't even care about the next time. No, it's no, but like, we're, we're honestly, we're so, we've been doing so much stuff. We haven't even gotten to really just like bask in the glory. So it's like, I think we're looking forward to doing that in New York a little bit.
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It'll be whatever. She's already told me the types of things she likes and wants for a wedding.
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Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
Yeah, it's beautiful. I feel like the thing that's so cool about it is I've been fortunate enough to make a lot of songs in my day. And people come up to me all the time and they say, this song changed my life because I would, you know, I was going through the same thing. And sometimes it is what I wrote about.
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Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
And sometimes they think the meaning is nothing of what I wrote about, but that's the best part about music that it hits you. It's like music is one of the senses, it's like food. It's like, like there's certain things, certain smells, certain songs, they bring you back to a time immediately. Okay. Like you're immediately transported.
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Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
And it's so cool that everybody can be listening to the same song and have a completely different relationship with it. I feel like that's so cool.
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Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
I can kiss her now.
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Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
What's really different is I feel like we got to talk about stuff that she would never talk about as an artist if it wasn't with her partner being next to her. And honestly, I would take out, I would just write everything she said. Sometimes she'd wake up from a dream and she's like, I had this terrible dream and this is what it was and blah, blah, blah. I write it down, then it becomes a song.
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Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
And I remember being like, whoa, wow, like Sidney's really like a complex person, like in a good way. And I was like, wow, she's so deep. And we had this conversation where I really, I was just really left by being like, oh, she's deep. And then we went and thought nothing more of it. And then-
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
It was so cool being able to I don't know. It was like therapy.
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Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
You could say whatever you want. There's certain things you wouldn't be able to say if you were, if I was just, hey babe, like I just want to, she'd be like, what the hell are you talking about? But if somehow like when I'm playing chords while we're saying it, it's like, oh, okay.
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Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
Yeah. And you can just talk about things and you're more open. It's like a therapy session. It's like, it's a safe place. And like, It was cool to learn things about her that I don't know if I would have learned ever or as soon as I did.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
when we did our song together i remember leaving not not feeling romantic at all i just remember leaving and i was talking you know because when you're a pop star like she is and you're a huge entity and and and you've done so many things in your life before like people set up all these walls before.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
Did you interview her yet?
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
I've known her since she was 14. Wow. So to see where... I put her on an album like five years ago. Wow. So to see where she's gone is so cool. And I'm always one who loves new talent, new artists. And she's great. She has such a great point of view. Her writing comes from such a good place.
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Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
I love people where it feels like they're like, and Selena does it too, where it feels like they're just kind of talking to you. And then you're like, oh wait, I'm listening to a song. But like, what, what? You know? Yeah. It's just, you know, making the album with her, I felt like it taught me.
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Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
I was just like, we're really good at communicating with each other and saying like, and setting boundaries and saying when we like something, when we don't like something.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
Thank you.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
So it's like, you get like, like before I came in, they were like, well, you know, this thing's like this and this is like this. And like, she might not want to do that. And like stuff. And they, they speak for people so much. And then I remember we were so me and the director were so nervous. And then, The first second you like disarmed everybody.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
And I remember walking back and Jake was like, he's like the guy who directing with me. He's like, it's going to be so easy. What they, they made it seem like she was, this was going to be this crazy thing. And the warmth I felt from her in that moment, I remember leaving being like, Wow, Selena's such a cool girl.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
Thank you.
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Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
No, no, she remembers this.
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Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
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Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
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Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
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Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
Oh my God. It's so long. It's like first you have to drive to New York and then you get on a boat for eight days and you're on the Titanic.
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Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
Wait, that's what you're going to... That's what you do to make her laugh. Oh, I did what I do to her to make her laugh.
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Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
Oh, I did what I do to make her laugh.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
I said I hug her and then get on top of her and then I do that little funny laugh thing.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
She'll make like a, like she does like this, like little face and where she's like, puts her head down and like looks at me and she's like, I can't even do it, but she'll do that. That'll make me laugh. And you'll usually get on top of me.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
That's true. Whenever she starts to get like angry, she's like, no. And I just laughed at her because it's so hard to take her seriously. Yeah, that's true.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
I thought she hated you. Really? I really did.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
That's usually how I fight.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
Easiest answer I could have ever thought of. That's the best question you could have ever asked me. I'm a hundred percent right.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
I really did. I thought she didn't... Like, I would see her and I would be like... Does she not like me? Like, and I, like, we weren't thinking about anything. I was like, wow, she really like didn't talk to me a lot. And I was like, I thought it was being nice. And like, my friends would be like, no, no.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
She always wants it hot.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
No, I don't know what she's... Tell me what you are. I don't think I'm... Selena's not competitive. Oh, I was going to say you are about games, but then you don't care anymore. Like you're competitive for like the first five minutes.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
Yeah, yeah. She's competitive for like five minutes.
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Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
So the most memorable one she gave me. Correct. Okay.
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Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
And then like, there was another time I remember and my friends were like, oh yeah, it's kind of weird to you. And I was like. I'm so sorry. And there was like a few times and I, and I didn't know. And I was just like, you know, I was like, that's okay.
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Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
No, no, I got her an actual piece of art that's in Will and Grace from the set. Yeah, from set. It's what they have. I knew the guy, my friend's brother wrote it. And I got her, for one of her birthday presents, I got her an actual painting that's hung up in Will & Grace. And when I gave it to her, the day I gave it to her, she was watching Will & Grace and it was on the TV.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
That's dope. That's a great gift. And mine's a framed picture of our first text where we fell in love. Like the first one where we decided we were going to go out on that date. She framed it and like made this like cute. She like made like, like did all these designs.
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Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
It was so cute.
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Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
She didn't really engage.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
No, no, I didn't even do the song. It was like one of my guys who did the song. Oh, and you came to fix it. Yeah, and I like came to help out because I was like, oh, I want their song to... I was like, I don't like the way this product... Let me just at least help them. I said, I was like... Well, I'm not sure if it'll be okay because I don't know if Selena likes me or something.
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Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
And then John Janik, the president of Interscope, he was like, well, why don't you just go into the session? She usually doesn't have people in, but just go in. And if there is something that you feel is weird, try to just smooth it over and talk to her and get in. And I said, okay, I'm going to go smooth it over.
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Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
So I went in, it was so funny right before I came, her engineer told me like later that she was like, ah, Benny's coming. And she was like.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
So from my perspective, here's what happened. I get in there and I'm like, I gotta smooth this.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
I was like, I don't have this with anyone. Like, I was like, I want us to be chill. And obviously 99% of it was in my head. And I come in, we just started talking about life and her. A&R is there, one of my friends is there. And we're just, we're talking about life and we start talking about dating. And I was like, yeah, you know, I went out on this date, blah, blah, blah.
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Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
And then I was talking to her and I said, oh my God, I have so many good single guy friends. I was like, we have dinners at the house all the time. You should come over sometime. And I wasn't even thinking about anything. And we're like talking about like our ideal date and like this and that. And I wanted to make sure she did the line right.
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Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
So I was like, oh, I'll stay there to like, make sure it's good after. And then, um, so I did, we left and then I, yeah, I didn't have her cell phone number. Cause I, she changed her number a bunch. So like, I like asked someone, I said, Hey, uh, give me your cell phone number. I want to say like, uh, you know, thing. And I, I wrote, I was like, oh my God, you were. And, and, and during that, I,
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Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
I, when I was with her, I was like, oh my God. I was like, not only, she's like really cool. I was like, I want, I was like, I want to be like, I was like, I want her to be like in our friend group. And I couldn't even be thinking. I was like, I want her to be in our friend group and I want to make sure this thing's smoothed out. So the song figures out, goes well and everything.
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Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
So I said, let me just text her. Thank you or whatever. And I was like, You know, you were so sweet or something, something like that. And then she writes back. I guess we just were texting throughout the day. And she told me, she looked back at our message. She said, somehow you started sending like selfies where you looked really bad on purpose, like the worst ones in your phone.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
Yes.
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Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
I don't know why I sent them. Wait, did you like me in that moment yet or not yet?
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Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
Oh, you did. Okay. That's what I was trying to figure out. I had no idea. So I had no idea. And somehow we decide. So wait, why did you do that if you liked Benny? Why were you sending him?
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Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
So I didn't know any of this. No. And then we decide... And we're like, I forget how it happens, but we're like, yeah, let's hang out. And I was like, oh, my friend's having a birthday party tomorrow. I was like, just come along. And I was like, just thinking friend stuff.
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Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
And then, so she comes to mine and I guess she thought the party was going to be at my house, but I was like, oh, in my head, I was like, oh, she'll just come over and we can just like grab a drink first and then go there. Like, not thinking anything of it. I was like, we'll just like grab a drink at my friend's wine bar. It's on the way. And then we'll go there.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
You were there and we were sitting together and she said something like, well, you know, because it's a date I wore blah, blah.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
And I was like, we're on a date. And then, and then we went and then we didn't really talk about it. You thought, who thought it was a date? She thought it was.
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Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
she thought it was a date I'm sorry a nice man takes me out for a drink I'm assuming it's a date I didn't know but no one had asked each other out yet no it was like let's just hang out like and then we go to my friends we go to this Thai restaurant we go to Jit Lada and we're like hanging out and there's a bunch of people there and then she all of a sudden like leaves and she was like I gotta go to I have a video shoot really early in the morning and I was like okay and I was like
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
But I wasn't like, cause it wasn't a date to me or anything. So I was like, okay, cool. And I stayed with my friends and stuff. And then she texts me after. And I remember you being like, that was like one of the most fun times I've had in a really long time.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE: Their Love Story Like You’ve Never Heard Before
She did.
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Wenn du eine Popstar bist, wie sie ist, und du bist eine große Entität, und die Leute haben all diese Wälder vorgelegt, und dann, in der ersten Sekunde, hast du alle verabschiedet. Übrigens, Glückwunsch an dein Engagement. Danke.
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