Big Sexy
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324 appearances
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first heard Mar 2025
last heard Mar 2025
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Because a lot of gay men have experienced being that loyal person to women, being that rider, and when things go left, they're thrown to the side. They have been the manager. They have been the person riding. They've been the person showing up when your man was doing you in in the house, abusing you. You've been that person, that older brother, that friend figure.
And when things go left, you'll forgive him, but you'll throw your gay friend to the side. So I can get why that dynamic is very sticky and very tricky. But as for me and my experience, women have saved me.
Yes, they do.
They do. It goes both ways. It goes both ways. And the thing is, we give a lot of confidence and tips and we teach a lot of things because we do. We innovate us and we're very creative. But the same way women give it to us. I couldn't imagine a world of me living here without women. I probably would have been off myself. Right. I'm just being serious.
I could, even when it comes to my own motherfucking community. Right. I could not imagine this earth of me here, even if it was an LGBTQ community with just men and a world with just men. I would then have gone. Yeah. I'm talking about upstairs with God hanging out. Yeah. It's women that keep me so grounded in who I am. They give me so much confidence. They give me so much genuine love.
I'm able to create my own table and my own lane because of women. Even with my own motherfucking community, I couldn't imagine having to kiss their motherfucking ass. Because there'd be a lot of them too that's so rooted in hate and jealousy. So it does go both ways. You guys give us a lot and we give you a lot. But I think that it just gets sticky sometimes because of different things that go on.
And... So you gotta just, ooh, you gotta just let things happen organically like you said, but me personally, I don't mind. Really? I don't mind a girl saying that because we fun, we fabulous.
Or like somebody trying to use... I think some girls, they enjoy gay men more than girls. Okay. I think sometimes.
It's a little weird. You think so? Yeah.
Yeah.
So you feel like, of course... You hate that because that's true. Yeah. Because I'm breaking it down for...
But guess what? You know what? That's so true how you just broke that down because I think about that with gay men. Yeah. If you're a gay man and you have no gay homeboys, because it's just like I spoke about on the other podcast. It's things, yeah, you can love me as a gay man. It is things that I can give you. But it's still certain things that you and her can relate on that I know nothing about.
Yeah. So as a gay black man, I got to have at least one gay black man that has lived this experience with me. If I don't have at least one gay black man that I can relate to, we've been through the same. We have different backgrounds and upbringings, but it's a lot of things as me being a black gay man that you can relate to 80% of the time. Right.
Rather, it's sometimes being ostracized, people judging us, people judging us because of what we like. So you absolutely right. Yeah. Because there's certain things that women can get from each other that you can't get from a gay man. Right, right. Yeah, I may be comfort for you. You may like to hang around me because I may encourage you in a different way than your homegirl.
But if you telling me you have no good homegirls, no good female friends, that is...
Because you know what, too? Sometimes, to be fair, even though I don't live a woman's experience, sometimes, though, too, women genuinely just have a cattiness.
So sometimes you, it's a lot of girls that have tried. They've tried to be a girl's girl. They've tried to get along with other girls. But it's sometimes the gay boy will be more of a cheerleader when you walk out the room. Ooh, girl, honey, yes, you look good. Sometimes you don't get that from other females.
God. I am. And like, even on, like, I'm the type of friend, it's nothing that my friend posted I'm not liking. Same. Me personally. Same. It could be some bullshit. It could be edited wrong. Me, I'm going to still like the picture.
I'm going to like it. That's just because I'm not intimidated. And I know that that might sound arrogant and pompous. It's not. But I'm so comfortable, contrary to what people may think.
Contrary to what people think they may see, I'm so comfortable in myself, and a lot of that attests to my girls. Because I could have 10 handsome, aesthetically pleasing gay friends that I'm around, and none of them are still me. And I don't mean that in an arrogant way, because they are their own person, and I can't be them. And they probably could get everything that I probably want in my heart.
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