Blake Boles
speaker
817 appearances
3 recordings
1 series
first heard Feb 2019
last heard Dec 2022
Blake Boles’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
Trend
recordings per month · last 12 monthsNo recordings in the last 12 months.Older appearances are listed below; set an alert to hear about the next one.
Appearances
One of my favorite lines, which I can only paraphrase from The Self-Driven Child, is when they're talking about the parent acting more like a consultant than a boss or manager of the kid's education.
And I think specifically about homework.
They say, if your kid's not doing their homework, you can make all these offers and incentives and suggestions, but fundamentally, you have to let them fail.
And the
counter to that is, well, you know, but what if my child will then fail in their life?
And their rebuttal was, well, it's your child's life.
It's not yours.
And so the message, one of the messages I took away from that book is that there is this kind of fundamental decoupling between parent and child.
And often this means between mother and child that needs to happen in
in order for this kind of parent as consultant ideal to flourish.
And really what the self-driven child is striking against is the whole philosophy of intensive parenting, which doesn't, you know, it's not even a phrase that's popular in the lexicon because it's the air we breathe, it's the water we swim in.
It's just the standard way of parenting that
That's been developed ever since the 80s.
And now it's not just for upper middle class families.
It's the gold standard for everyone.
It's in which a parent is highly invested in the life of their child.
And again, it's more often the mother than the father.
And there's a high degree of identification between parent and child.
One of my favorite authors who writes about this is
William Deresiewicz, who wrote the book Excellent Sheep, which is a must-read book for anyone who is kind of really obsessed with making sure their kid can get into top colleges.
Showing 181–200 of 817 · page 10 of 41
← Previous
Next →