Brad Wilcox
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by spending time with someone.
But it certainly helps to, I think, dress nicely, both men and women, and then also to kind of pay attention to your appearance, and then also to make an effort to exercise regularly as well.
This is a great question.
And I think one of the most surprising things that students at UVA kind of tell me after my class is done is that their thoughts about cohabitation had kind of done a 180.
Because most young adults today cohabit prior to marriage.
And most adults think it's a great way to prepare for marriage.
I think the challenge is people don't appreciate that cohabitation is not the same thing as marriage.
And so it's not necessarily a good preparation for marriage.
And so what we see is that cohabitation is linked, particularly when you're cohabiting with more than one person, to a much greater risk of divorce.
And so, for instance, there's work done by a Stanford sociologist kind of showing us that folks who are cohabiting with someone besides their spouse are more than twice as likely to end up getting divorced.
So that's certainly one piece of data on the issue.
And there's work done by Scott Stanley and Glenna Rhodes, both at the University of Denver, kind of telling us that
When people are cohabiting prior to an engagement or they're cohabiting with multiple partners, they're more likely to experience either divorce or oftentimes marital distress as well.
And so I think the issue with cohabitation is that there's a couple of things happening here.
One thing that Scott Stanley talks about is kind of what's called sliding versus deciding.
And so it's particularly when people are kind of moving in with any kind of clear plan for their future, just in general, but also in terms of their relationship.
And they're just kind of like,
They kind of move in, and they're not really communicating, like, are we on the same page here?
Because oftentimes one party is thinking about this as a way to save on the rent and enjoy regular intimacy, and the other party is thinking, let's just maybe, we're going to be heading to marriage here.
And obviously, if they're not on the same page, that can create a really awkward and ambiguous situation down the road.
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