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Brendan O'Connor

👤 Speaker
4849 total appearances

Appearances Over Time

Podcast Appearances

Brendan O'Connor
Richard Hogan: “Too many feel their boundaries should never be breached”

Just for me.

Brendan O'Connor
Author, Elizabeth Strout: “A marriage can be a lonely place”

And I know you got a whole book out of it very early on.

Brendan O'Connor
Richard Hogan: “Too many feel their boundaries should never be breached”

Again, you know, I trained in systems theory.

Brendan O'Connor
Author, Elizabeth Strout: “A marriage can be a lonely place”

Right.

Brendan O'Connor
Author, Elizabeth Strout: “A marriage can be a lonely place”

Was that an accelerant of all this as well?

Brendan O'Connor
Richard Hogan: “Too many feel their boundaries should never be breached”

And so all systems fall into a balance.

Brendan O'Connor
Richard Hogan: “Too many feel their boundaries should never be breached”

And that's called homeostasis.

Brendan O'Connor
Richard Hogan: “Too many feel their boundaries should never be breached”

You know, the balance of a system.

Brendan O'Connor
Richard Hogan: “Too many feel their boundaries should never be breached”

We're in a balance.

Brendan O'Connor
Richard Hogan: “Too many feel their boundaries should never be breached”

Everything's in a balance.

Brendan O'Connor
Richard Hogan: “Too many feel their boundaries should never be breached”

Everything's in every interaction.

Brendan O'Connor
Richard Hogan: “Too many feel their boundaries should never be breached”

The intricacies of human communication is always in this incredible complex balance, right?

Brendan O'Connor
Richard Hogan: “Too many feel their boundaries should never be breached”

But if you want to reorient, it doesn't mean it's balanced.

Brendan O'Connor
Richard Hogan: “Too many feel their boundaries should never be breached”

No, Brendan, it's in a balance, but it can be quite unbalanced.

Brendan O'Connor
Richard Hogan: “Too many feel their boundaries should never be breached”

There can be all sorts of dysfunction in that balance, right?

Brendan O'Connor
Richard Hogan: “Too many feel their boundaries should never be breached”

And if you want to realign the balance, you have to change your interactions with the person, change what you allow, right?

Brendan O'Connor
Richard Hogan: “Too many feel their boundaries should never be breached”

And you'll get pushback always because that's the system...

Brendan O'Connor
Author, Elizabeth Strout: “A marriage can be a lonely place”

Yeah, yeah.

Brendan O'Connor
Richard Hogan: “Too many feel their boundaries should never be breached”

Kind of go back to what it was.

Brendan O'Connor
Author, Elizabeth Strout: “A marriage can be a lonely place”

And so, as much as that's a collective thing, it's also about, like, atomization and aloneness.