Brendan O'Connor

And so all systems fall into a balance.

And that's called homeostasis.

You know, the balance of a system.

We're in a balance.

Everything's in a balance.

Everything's in every interaction.

The intricacies of human communication is always in this incredible complex balance, right?

But if you want to reorient, it doesn't mean it's balanced.

No, Brendan, it's in a balance, but it can be quite unbalanced.

There can be all sorts of dysfunction in that balance, right?

And if you want to realign the balance, you have to change your interactions with the person, change what you allow, right?

And you'll get pushback always because that's the system...

Yeah, yeah.

Kind of go back to what it was.

And so, as much as that's a collective thing, it's also about, like, atomization and aloneness.

But after a while, if you hold the course again, as I said at the start, being consistent in how you are.

You know, for a boundary, for example, for someone is like, you know, in a relationship, I want to go with the lads for a weekend.

It's a totally normal thing to ask, to want, you know, and for you to go with your girlfriends for the weekend or whatever it is.

Let's say you've never done that before and you get pushback and say, don't you want to go out with me?

Do you want to go?