Brendan O'Connor

We knew each other so well.

That's different.

So tell me about her father.

40.

40, start at 40.

Start at 40 and work your way up.

It's like when I used to teach, you'd go in the first couple of months, you know, you weren't showing them who you were exactly.

You were building the relationship so that they'd respect you first.

You know, in your teaching, you weren't coming, hey guys, who wants to have fun with me?

You weren't doing that as a teacher.

You were coming in to build a relationship subtly and slowly and incrementally.

I don't think I need to know what happened last night in your life.

You know what I mean?

If I don't know you, I think having a healthy boundary is about understanding what people want to be let into.

Okay.

OK.

And some people don't have that filter so much and they let you into everything.

And then your mother never really talked about the effect of all that around her.

And then I'd be managing my distance to that person.

I think I've read somewhere that you have a feeling that her silence about all that...