Camille Fornela
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668 appearances
8 recordings
1 series
first heard Mar 2025
last heard Jun 2025
Camille Fornela’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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Ako pa yung punong abala para sa planning. Pero sa kabaita naman, perfect siya. Hindi siya nang bababae. Nag-aasikaso siya sa bahay. Lahat ng sinasabi ko, sinusunod naman niya. Anong gagawin ko? Natutorn talaga ako. Hindi ko rin ma-open sa kanya kasi baka ma-offend siya. Or any suggestion if paano ko bababanggitin sa kanya na maghati naman kami sa expenses para sa kasal namin?
Okay lang sa kanya kahit simple wedding pero ako, sa sarili ko, alam kong di ko deserve yun. Lalo na alam kong afford ko. Di ko lang maisip na talaga bang ako lang dapat ang gagastos. Grabe, this is amazing.
This is a different scenario, no? Kasi this is a bride na nagdadalawang isip and hindi siya issue tungkol sa pagmamahalan, hindi siya third party. It's an issue na hindi natin masyado talaga pinag-uusapan. It's all about finances. So, I'm going to share with you a lot of scenarios para ma-realize ninyo. Kung halimbawa nandito kayo sa same na sitwasyon kagaya kay Sender, maybe this episode can be an eye-opener for you.
So, let me discuss the things na pinagdadaanan ni Sender. It's the invisible load you didn't sign up for.
Let's be honest, bilang isang bride, wala namang nagsasabi sa'yo about the emotional side of being the stronger earner in a relationship. Sa kultura kasi natin, ang mga lalaki ang usual na provider. Kaya nakakapanibago kapag babae yung mas malaki ang kita, right? Yung mga tao sa paligid ninyo, madali lang para sa kanila na sabihin, edi ikaw na yung gumastos, mas malaki naman yung sahod mo.
Pero hindi nila alam, hindi nila nakikita yung bigat na dinadala mo araw-araw. Let me paint you a picture. Imagine this. Every month, you sit down and you open your GCash, your banking apps, your credit card statement, and whatever you use sa pagbabudget mo. Kinukompute mo na agad. How are you going to stretch your income para mabayaran lahat ng bills ninyo?
Yung lupa, sasakyan, kuryente, groceries, tubig, travel, wedding fund. Tapos sasabihin niya sa'yo, ibibigay ko naman lahat ng matitirang sweldo ko sa'yo after kumabigyan yung family ko. At deep down, nararamdaman mo na kulang yung ibinibigay niya. Pero,
Alam naman niya na kahit kulang yun, you are there to shoulder the big chunk of your combined expenses. Hindi mo siya sinisise. Hindi ka nagre-reklamo.
Pero there are days you just sit quietly, you look at the cart you had to abandon on Shopee or Lazada and wonder, Kailan ko kaya mabibili yung gusto ko para sa sarili ko? Not because you can't afford it but because you feel guilty spending on yourself when you already spend for both of you. Here's another scenario. Let's say,
May gusto kang i-celebrate. Maybe you hit a goal sa trabaho or maybe birthday mo. Gusto mo sana ng special dinner. Maybe a simple staycation. Pero parang may isip mo na lang bigla.
Okay lang, dito na lang siguro tayo sa bahay. Kasi alam mo, ikaw pa rin ang taya, ikaw pa rin ang gagastos. Kaya parang ang hirap i-enjoy, diba? You become that girl boss who looks so composed outside. Pero behind the smiles, behind your inspiring image, a VA who earns six digits is a very tired woman thinking, ako na nga yung nagplano, ako pa yung nagbayad, ako pa yung nag-a-adjust. Fair pa ba to?
And the worst part, you cannot talk about it. You're afraid he might take it the wrong way. Na baka isipin niya na hindi mo siya mahal o kaya naman minamaliit mo siya. So you keep it all in.
Everyday, you keep making the sacrifices and slowly, silently, you start to feel alone. Even if you're in a relationship, that's the emotional tollsies. Hindi na lang ito tungkol sa pera. It's about the part of you that feels tired.
Unheard, unacknowledged. Yung tipong responsabling tao ka naman, inaasikaso mo yung sarili mo, pati siya, pati nga future plans ninyo. Pero sana kahit minsan, ikaw naman yung maalagaan, yung siya naman ang manlilibre, siya naman yung mag-i-effort para sa'yo, hindi dahil hiningi mo, kundi dahil deserve mo rin namang magpahinga.
And if you don't give this part of you a voice, it won't just disappear. It might turn into a resentment. And the thing is, hindi ka nag-isa. There are actually a lot of brides-to-be and women in relationships na nasa ganitong sitwasyon. Pero tahimik lang rin sila dahil ayaw nga nilang sila pa ang lumabas na masama. Right?
Pero real talk lang, you're not a bad person for feeling this way. You are brave for acknowledging it. Now, you might be wondering, paano mo sasabihin ito nang hindi ka nagmumukhang pera at hindi rin naman siya nao-offend? So what now? You've been carrying this weight silently for 2 years now.
Pero, paano mo naman sasabihin sa kanya without sounding like you're attacking him or making him feel na hindi siya enough? Kasi sa totoo lang, money is a very sensitive topic. Lalo na sa ating mga Pinoy, di ba? Wala lang yung pamilya na may open discussions when it comes to money. We avoid this topic.
At nagiging extra sensitive ang topic na ito sa mga lalaking alam nila sa sarili nilang hindi sila ang main provider sa relationship. But here's something important to remember. You are not just asking for more money from him. You are asking for a partnership. And that's a big difference. Ito yung tao na pinipili mong makasama for the rest of your life at gusto mong makaramdam na
Pareho kayong ibinibigay ninyo yung 100% ninyo sa relationship ninyo. Tama ba? Now, let me share with you yung isang bagay na sobrang importanteng maintindihan ng mga soon-to-wed couples. Lalo na kapag nag-uusap na kayo about finances. At ito yung difference between financial compatibility and financial equality.
Baka kasi akala ng iba, for the marriage to work, ang goal ay laging hati kayo sa lahat ng bagay na dapat 50-50. Pareho kayo ng ambag, pareho kayo ng gastos.
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