Candice Odgers
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first heard Jul 2026
last heard 20 Jul
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And that means whether or not a child is willing to come and talk to you and tell you about the things that are going wrong is the best predictor of them doing well and mental health and kind of the relationship doing well versus surveillance, which means the parent constantly checking in and monitoring, right?
That tends to indicate that there are problems and that's fine when they're little.
So you have complete control over your child's iPad if they have one, but when they get to early adolescence, that's gonna have to start to change.
And the idea there is that there's a bit of a breakage of trust if you're surveilling your child online without the kind of cooperation and engagement of them in that process.
And so it's this tricky balance.
Parents are panicked.
A lot of them like to surveil their child's phone just to make sure that there is no risk or they aren't encountering these things.
And I completely understand that.
But at a certain point, we know from a lot, a lot of work with young people that the surveillance model will only take you so far.
And it has to be around the communication.
So what I love about what you just said was that when they're little, you're kind of trusting somebody else to help make the decisions when you're not there.
You're substituting your parental health.
You've given your babysitter or a family member the ability to come in and do what you would have done.
The trick comes when they get older and then their early adolescent period or adolescence, we have to be able to trust them to make the right decisions.
And that means we have to scaffold.
So we have to prepare them today to do the thing that tomorrow or the next day we want them to do alone by themselves.
And that's why the ban issues are so scary to me, because we're saying we'll have this bright line of 16 and we will, you know, if we could prevent them, we would prevent them.
And then suddenly they will magically be ready for that versus investing, like what we talked about earlier, more resources into digital literacy, into helping young people develop regulation skills online or integrate technology into their lives to the extent that is possible.
And then the other issue with parental mental health, they're called two-gen interventions.
So if you want to improve the behavior of a child, you also intervene with the parent.
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