Cas Holman

And I'll do a deep dive and try to figure out what's going on.

In the bigger picture, if I were to name by function that attention play for me in the subway, it's about reconnecting and feeling connected to the people around me, which for me is absolutely essential for my feeling okay.

If I were to go and scroll instead, I would be confronted by stories about that it is all the worst and everything is terrible, which things are not great.

I think we can all agree.

So...

I can go in there and lose all faith in humanity.

Or I could just look up and be like, here are some people that are having the best days of their lives and the worst days of it.

I cry on the subway.

I love crying on the subway because actually I think subway is maybe the only safe place to cry because eventually someone will make eye contact.

Like we see each other.

I'm reminded that I'm not alone in it.

Yeah.

Okay, so for adults, in particular with free play, embracing possibility, which means be open to what you might find at any point.

For example, not looking at your phone.

Look around and be curious.

Releasing judgment.

So we are our own worst critics.

We came up through school and we were extrinsically motivated.

Someone told us what to do.

They told us how to be good at them.