Casey O'Roarty
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first heard Aug 2016
last heard Apr 2022
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Well, the biggest thing that I hear is that it's permissive for sure.
If I could go through all the literature and change the word positive to the word connected, I would.
Because I've worked with both parents and teachers who have said, I just don't know how to handle this situation positively.
And that's why it's like, well, you know, that's not really what it's about.
It's about maintaining connection with our kids while also, you know, it's kind and firm, right?
So it's kindness and firmness at the same time.
Kindness, again, not being niceness or sugarcoating or wishy-washy or a doormat.
Kindness being connected and recognizing our kids as fellow
beings.
Firmness being structure, firmness being respecting yourself as the adults and respecting the situation at hand.
And it's interesting, too.
I think that the thing that's the hardest piece about positive discipline is that you really have to trust the process.
You have to trust, for example, that making an effort with spending 20 minutes a day in special time with your child's kid centered.
You know, kid driven, not a time to talk about challenges, but really just being present and available and together 20 minutes a day is actually going to do so much more for their behavior than spanking or a timeout or nipping it in the bud in that moment.
And it's hard, like I said, even that the participant of mine who looked at me like I was a crazy person when I asked her to, you know, hug her child after she bit the baby for the, you know, who knows how many times,
Trusting that when the connection is there and when the relationship is strong.
you're going to see a difference in behavior.
I think that's the hardest piece for parents.
And I think the reason that articles around spanking and shaming and timeouts invite such hot and heavy emotion is because for a lot of people, that's all they have.
That's where they're at.
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