Cat Burns

And then it's dangerous.

Yeah, exactly.

So I had to really unpack and forgive myself and forgive him and lots of active imagination where I just kind of close my eyes and think about my past and reassure inner child stuff and like really do the work and...

I learned from that time from my childhood when I think back to it I'm like as much as my dad wasn't great I'm like but I also had a mum who was really great and I've started just taking control of my brain a little bit more and being like well I can actually maybe I'm going to pick things from my childhood that I actually want to take with me and keep and let go of the things that I don't

I had a really great mum who acted like a mum and a dad.

She did the best that she could.

So funny.

Made me feel so safe.

I can cry to her all the time.

There's so much love that I did have.

And now I've got the tools to be able to look back and be like, I'm going to take this and this and this and just leave the facts.

That doesn't serve me.

I've unpacked it.

I've healed from it.

I've forgiven myself, forgiven him.

So I don't need to.

Forgiveness is for yourself.

I think the same with resentment as well.

My idea of resentment is that person is just, again, a mirror for all of the times where you didn't acknowledge your own boundaries.

Does that make sense?