Cate
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first heard Feb 2025
last heard 25 Mar
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And so when you say, like, you think that it creates a bigger issue, in what sense do you mean?
From an outside perspective, looking into our story, I can see where you would think that. And I understand that thought on that. But I think... Our main goal for putting stuff out publicly was because if Carly has a chance of being able to see that we never stop trying, she deserves to know that, in my opinion. Also... It is bringing awareness to everybody that is involved in adoption.
It's bringing awareness to adoptive parents that stuff like this happens, birth parents, and also it's giving a voice for adopted kids.
I can see where you would think that.
You know, I mean, we don't know, obviously, because, you know, they have completely cut us off, blocked me. You know, now she's telling us that we're not allowed to even send gifts to the house anymore.
No, after the block.
yes so i want to give you a little bit of backstory yes please do okay so what happened was is so there's carly but they also have another adopted child okay and so me and that birth mom she lives in michigan she has you know kids she's raising and stuff me and her talk and um we're pretty close because we share that bond um
It all started with his, it's hard, it gets confusing, but Carly's, her brother's birth mom reached out to me and said, hey, do you think we're getting a visit this year? The kids are getting older, you know.
has Teresa said anything to you and I said no but I can start a group text and we can ask her you know so that's what we did and so I we sent a text in this group chat and I just said hey you know uh we would love to try to get together this summer we'd be more than willing to come to North Carolina and even meet up just for dinner one day uh and after I said that to her
she ghosts me for weeks, which this is typical of Teresa. I can message Carly and say, I can message Teresa and say, hey, how is Carly in school? Is she liking it? Not hear anything for weeks.
No, that always happens. And then, so days go by, a week goes by, and then the birth mom messages me, hey, has she said anything? No. So I reach out in, hey, just checking in on this, wondering if you and Brandon had the time to talk about it. And she was just like, you know, I know it's disappointing, but no, we're not planning to have a visit this year.
And I said, yeah, I said it's disappointing just because of all the kids. You know, like all the kids, like my kids are getting older. They know Carly. They know that's her sister.
The other birth mom's kids, same thing. They know that their brother is out there and they ask questions. I said, so it sucks that, you know, we can't even meet up just for a dinner, you know? And then Teresa was like, yeah, I understand, you know, whatever. But just know that we love and we care about you guys so much.
Yeah. And and then so and she got upset with me because I said, you know, it doesn't feel like love. You know, like people that I truly love and I care about that are involved in my life. I make time for those people. I even if it's just an hour, like I want to spend time with the people that I love and I care about. So she got upset with me that I said that.
And then you fast forward a few weeks and it was like Carly's birthday. So, of course, I'm like, hey, I texted recently. Hey, I sent Carly gifts. Please let me know if she gets them. And she answered me on that day. But even a few days after her birthday, I checked in again and it was like she never responds again. You know, weeks go by, then I check in again, no response.
And I'm like, okay, you know, what's going on?
And then she just came back with, like, you know, the way that you speak about us isn't nice and we're not going to be responding for a while, which kind of blew mine in a little bit because I was like, I've never – I mean, you can watch everything that I've shown – on this journey. And I have never called them out of their names.
I have never said that they were shitty-ass parents, weren't doing a good job raising my child. Because I believe all those things. I believe that they do. She's an amazing, well-rounded kid because of them. And so when she said that, my response to her was basically like, I get that. I get that if your feelings are hurt and my feelings are hurt, too.
And when you want to have a conversation about that, I'm here for it. And we should have that conversation. And I told her, I said, but, you know, until then, I'm going to continue to send gifts to Carly like I always have. And I'm going to continue to send updates like I always have. And so that's why when people online said like, oh, my God, Caitlin's just blowing her up all the time.
It was like, no, that all those messages were from after I got that text from her and me telling Teresa like, OK, I get it, but I'm going to send updates. And they were like once directed to Carly.
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