Chachi

I think the first time we did experiment that way was almost like eight or nine years into the relationship.

So we were strictly monogamous.

And then we became monogamous, which is a Dan Savage term.

Yeah, I love that term.

Like that could mean so many different things.

Absolutely.

I mean, there's so many different like factors to that.

It's again, every relationship is different.

And if it's a don't ask, don't tell it is it plays into how the relationship is dissected.

If it is something that is fully transparent, then there's like the connecting after and reclaiming the relationship.

Well, no, there isn't a don't ask, don't tell.

I originally, if anything, I was a little bit more apprehensive at first.

My partner is 10 years younger than me.

So he does have a different, I think, upbringing and viewpoint on like sexuality and all of the fluidity that comes with it.

Right.

And I'm 51, so I think I'm maybe a little bit more programmed to, I grew up and was programmed to be, oh, you need a hetero perspective kind of relationship, right?

Where it's like you get married and you're monogamous and so I've had to like dissect and tear apart a lot of those moments because of my age, I think, and my upbringing.

Yeah.

So again, we haven't had like extreme, like tons of experiences of being open, open play alone.

But the ones that we have had, we've learned from and some of them have gone good as good as could be and others have been a little bit trickier.