Chachi

I think when you have...

Anything you have to have rules you have to have you have to have a foundation of like this is what you can or can't do I think even in an open relationship Because it's not a free-for-all and at the end of the day your your your primary partner is your priority, right?

so if there's something I'm doing that's going to upset him or Vice-versa we have to take that into account.

Well, that was the thing.

We didn't really have a lot going first into this, which was a mistake.

And I think those lead into some of those bumpy road moments where things get misinterpreted.

I would think that I was doing the right thing by coming back and talking about my experiences right away.

And that necessarily wasn't the right thing to do.

I didn't prep in advance the

the situations and so there's a lot of like care that has to go into it.

And again, this is different for everybody.

So the moments that we have had our own experiences when someone is out, like basically when we're not in the same city.

So like if I'm traveling for work or he's traveling for work or visiting family and so on and so forth.

So it's been, it hasn't been something where we're like at home in our city and being like, Oh, Hey, go dude, I'm going to hook up with so-and-so.

Right.

Because that has, that's why we've had more special guests.

into our, in our equation versus one-on-one experiences.

But there was one instance last year that I, my partner was away and I was home and I ended up talking to someone on Grindr and we had a like really good connection and it wasn't necessarily

go with the intent of having sex but like there was obviously a lot of flirting and banter and all that stuff and i was home alone and so i invited him over to can't come hang and we ended up talking for like two hours and then we hooked up and i when he left i called my partner right away and told him and he was upset because i didn't clear it with him prior to

And I wasn't transparent because what I had said is like, it's not a sex thing.