Chachi

We're just going to hang out.

And again, we had moved into a newer city.

So we were still trying to connect and find community, right?

So I was like, this wasn't just a sex thing, right?

And so when I told him, I thought I was doing the right thing.

Right.

And he was furious because that's not how I presented it.

So that was me not being completely transparent with him.

So it ended up being causing a conflict, but it was a great one because we were able to talk and work it out and be like, this isn't what we want to do this way anymore.

or how we want to handle it, right?

So, yeah, that was a really, it was a tough one because, again, I thought I was doing the right thing, but I got my hands slapped because I didn't handle it the right way.

And maybe there was, like, some conscious, like, underlying tones to it where I knew I was going to have sex with this person, but I didn't want to, like, completely admit to it right away.

And so that underlying play, like, and not being completely up front with my partner was...

obviously something that was discouraging for him.

He has a couple he has had a couple that same weekend, he was coming home, and he ended up hooking up with someone on the way.

And I was like,

Do it like I was like coaching him like we have again very different ways and techniques like He is the type of person that wants to know everything and wants to be involved Even if he's not involved in like and like he's like it's like a coach, you know what I mean?

It's like

yeah and i'm not i'm not like that at all i'm like uh i kind of like walk into things cautiously and so i'm not the same i'm not like a champion coach for him to go and like go and do his own thing like i want him to do it but i don't want to be the one to have to like push him to do it if that

make sense and so uh yeah he had an experience this was the right after my the the experience i just shared with you and and i was i i ended up coach like basically pushing him to do it and he had it was a good time and all that stuff but we have had since then uh we have different