Chachi

We have different sex drives and we have different sexual interests, right?

And that means like from topping to bottoming to which side now, which is a whole new word that happens within the community.

They don't top or bottom, they're just sides and like to jerk off and do masturbation sessions in these groups.

that come together all around the world and love men that just come and they don't, they'll like spend a weekend jerking off and not coming or coming on the last day and edging.

I'm not into that.

My partner is.

And so it's like, I let him go and experience those things on his own.

He's gone to a couple of those events by himself.

And he's asked me to go, but I'm just not interested in that.

Absolutely.

And the Bader community, it's a culture that I'm just not interested in, but I understand it.

She was like, yeah, that's a thing.

I was like, oh my God.

you're a side, you're not a top or bottom and side.

I don't know if you've looked on any of the new, of the like grinders and whatnot, but that's how people are labeling themselves now, which is not something that I grew up with, but also like, I can, I mean, I guess I'm not excited about the jerking off thing.

Cause I've done it since I was a kid, essentially.

So it's like, to me, I'm like, that means nothing.

I don't know.

So it's just, I don't connect with that.

Like, like other people do.