Chachi

And I understand now through my partner that it's more of a sense of community and it's the stroking and the baitering.

Baiter culture is a sense of community building with with a like minded men.

So I understand and respect that.

I just don't.

It's just not for me.

Right.

So so he'll do that on his own.

And he's done.

He's.

he's gone to a few of those events by himself and and it what it has been fine like we haven't had any conflict or anything over that so yeah so i think we're learning and growing and if i talk to you in a year maybe it would be a completely different conversation so i think right now we're just like kind of trying to find what works and doesn't work with us still

When it's not a special guest star.

I think also what we're talking about really does correlate with language too.

I think my partner and I, I've never, like, he considers himself more of a side, which is a new term, right?

Just like...

queer in in this in a sense where the way that it's used it's not a new term it's just the way that it's used as new so like the side community if you will within the queer community is something that like people gravitate or a lot more people are gravitating to whereas nobody would ever call like a

Even me talking to my generation or older of gay men, they're like, what the fuck is a side?

What the hell is that?

You know what I mean?

What is it?

Well, it's people that don't fuck, penetration-wise, but it's everything but.