Charles Schwartz

Just make, if you, again, it's real simple.

If you can eliminate someone else's pain,

that you will get rewarded.

That's your job in life.

Eliminate people's pain.

So what are some of the biggest challenges you've run into?

And how did you get yourself out of it?

You talked about date night, which anybody of you guys who, because I've had to coach couples for 20 years, guys, just date night every single night, even if that means I'm exhausted and my newborn's driving me out of my mind, just drive down the street, sit in the car and take a nap in the car next to each other for an hour.

Whatever it is, just make it a non-negotiable.

So what are some of the problems that you've run into?

Right.

I think what there's an equation, right?

There's everyone has been taught this equation that if I do this, I'll be enough.

And if I'm enough, I'll be worthy of love.

And that equation in itself is broken.

Because if you think about the person you love the most in this world, and you say, what does that person have to do to be worthy of my love?

The answer is nothing.

So then if you finish the equation, which is what do I have to do to be worthy of love?

The answer is also nothing.

When you realize that you will find peace, but we're trapped in this loop of, if I make enough and pretty enough and drive a fast enough car, blah, blah, blah, blah, then I'll be enough.