Chris Balme

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Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children · TPP 321: Chris Balme on How Parents Can Navigate the Tricky Middle School Years · 7 Mar 2023 podcast

And if that's just a brief time, if you're doing those as experiments.

It's totally normal developmentally to go through conformity, to be totally obsessed with the same K-pop band as your other friend, whatever it might be.

That is fine.

But the trick is to not get stuck there.

So the next stage developmentally we call achievement.

And that's where you're starting to realize there are different versions of success, different games that are played, whether that's the game of grades, actual athletic game, game of popularity, more or less positive games that we can participate in and we can navigate.

You can find a way to receive some kind of esteem from us.

Others.

And then the last stage and the one I hope middle schoolers can get to with the right support, we call authenticity.

And that's where you've learned to belong and you've learned how to play games, but now you're choosing the games that feel important to you to play.

So maybe you don't care about the popularity game and you're comfortable being yourself, which is a huge theater nerd, or whatever it might be, combination of interests and passions.

That is an ideal outcome from these early adolescent years that you've known.

Notice that you're in a social world and you're still comfortable, you return to being comfortable being yourself.

Yes, I I think and and there's interesting research behind this that when we enter a new chapter or a new challenge, even as adults, like say you take a new job and it's quite different from the last one, maybe different industry, you'll go through the same three steps of, oh shoot, do I belong here?

Was this a good idea?

And then achievement, I can actually be valued for my contribution, and then authenticity.

Here's what I actually love to do here.

So I

I think we repeat the cycle.

The difference for middle school is that it's their first time going through that cycle.

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