Chris Balme
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238 appearances
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first heard Mar 2023
last heard Mar 2023
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I mean, if I had to just say one word that I think sums up so much of this book, it's trust.
that they deserve more of our trust than we give them.
They're not they're not perfect either.
They're going to make many, many mistakes, 'cause that's how we all learn.
But they're they're worthy of more trust.
And when we trust them, we tend to see better versions of themselves.
And we we might have the chance to relax.
It's not going to make it easy.
I get that as a parent, but
But some trust goes a long way.
Yeah, I think first thing is something I know you mentioned in your book as well, which is the importance of having parent community.
That if you feel like you're at this alone, it's it's going to be overwhelming, without doubt.
So having other parents you can laugh and cry with, have a glass of wine with will be very helpful.
And then second, I think we all are gonna get triggered by our kids uh sometimes.
And when we notice that big emotional reaction
in ourselves to try to pause if we can and trace back whatever behavior or statement just got us triggered, trace that back to a developmental need.
And say, I know that they were they were sincerely working on something for their growth, but something went sideways in the course of that from there to their behavior.
So for example, you know, you get a call from school that your kid has been bullying someone.
That would be probably a triggering situation for most of us before you react and go into punishment mode to figure out like what were they trying to do?
I know in many cases of bullying I've seen, it's someone who does not know how to connect.
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