Chris Balme
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238 appearances
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first heard Mar 2023
last heard Mar 2023
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that they are trying to figure out how do I make a friend feel valuable, feel wanted.
And that is a beautiful drive that all humans share.
And before we go into punishment mode, we can start thinking, how do I help them express that drive more positively?
Because it went really sideways and they harmed someone, but the the actual drive is a positive.
So this is easier said than done.
It takes a lot to be able to pause.
And I I struggle with this myself, but I think that's
Yeah.
That would be my my top recommendation.
Exactly.
Yeah.
I think they are really always working hard to grow.
And even when that looks like they're rolling their eyes at you and doing nothing, that might be because they feel like they can't grow in that moment and they're waiting.
They are sincerely trying to figure out how to be a grown up in many ways.
It is not easy.
Yeah, so the metaphor I I sometimes use and it's in the book is if you imagine that you are going out on a big wilderness expedition somewhere really beautiful and maybe slightly dangerous, like you're hiking in the Arctic or something like that.
And if you can imagine you you could hire one guide to accompany you on that.
What kind of person would you want?
And I I think for most people range of answers, but I think some some common points are obviously this person needs to know the terrain.
And if you're about to do something dangerous, they need to stop you from hurting yourself.
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