Chris Voss

Long-term success strategy is kindness.

So that's for me as an assertive.

Now, the other two types, scandalous, super smart dudes, they tend to come off as cold and distant.

Yeah.

So since they're not assertive, they just need to open up in a friendlier way.

Accommodators.

Accommodators.

relationship, hope-based people, they need to be more assertive.

Okay.

My girlfriend is an accommodator.

When I'm coaching her, I'm coaching her to be more assertive.

So each type has a lesson that will enhance, add to enhance, don't change, enhance to make you better, which is not changing who you are.

My girlfriend's core values are solid.

I don't want her to change her core values.

I want her to be clearer with the people that she deals with.

Okay.

The analysts, I don't want the analysts to change their core values.

You think so hard about stuff.

You're not cold, but you come off as cold, which interferes with people warming up to you.

So that's a really long answer for my improvement is to be nicer, kinder, friendlier, unchanged, just be nicer about how I tip.