Claire Crowe

And the research shows us the best predictor of how a child copes with death is how a parent copes with death.

So actually, as a parent, the kindest thing is to look after yourself because that will help your child.

So it's a bit like the...

you know, being on the airplane and putting on your mask first.

Do that.

Mind yourself because that is the best way you mind your child.

So it's not selfish.

It's not entitled.

It's a really, really good way of modeling to your child that actually someone I loved that mattered to me is not here.

So I am minding myself whether that's

I don't know, I go to yoga class or whatever it is that you do to kind of give yourself some soothing.

Absolutely.

Yeah.

Please.

Oh, my gosh.

Like we've had dogs that were traded in, you know, the puppy gets knocked down.

And I remember a friend of mine's event and she said, you wouldn't believe the fortune this family spent in getting the exact same style puppy and replacing it in.

And of course, the kids are so astute.

They're like, oh, he didn't bark that way.

exactly and she you know and of course it's coming from a really good place of oh god they're so attached and we don't want them to be upset but actually our pets are a great way to start for our kids to learn about life and death in a way that's contained I always encourage families if they can have a goldfish have a goldfish because you know who can keep those alive you know