Claire Wasserman
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537 appearances
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first heard Jan 2025
last heard Jan 2025
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Hi, I'm Claire Wasserman, and I'm guest hosting for Nicole while she's out on maternity leave. My day job is running Ladies Get Paid, a coaching practice, podcast, and newsletter that helps you increase your worth inside and out. This episode is a little bit different from the other ones where I was coaching real women through their work and money challenges.
Instead, today, I'm going to be coaching you. That's right, you and me a little bit. What we're going to be focusing on is how to relieve and release financial anxiety, or as I like to call it, broke baggage. Because here's the thing, there is a number in your bank account, and then there's how you feel about that number.
And everything that I'm going to share with you comes from what I've seen, what I've experienced, and what I've learned. I run a community of 55,000 members who've exchanged more than 3 million messages. I've been in over $4 million worth of debt. Yes, $4 million. And I have a master's certificate in financial psychology because, quite frankly, I was sick of my own broke baggage.
Maybe let me define what broke baggage is real quickly. So broke baggage is this feeling that you never have enough money, no matter how much is in your account. Broke baggage is feeling guilty or uncomfortable to ask for more. Broke baggage is feeling like you're drowning and you can never get your head above water.
In short, broke baggage is feeling like money controls you and not the other way around. Now, listen, I am not going to gaslight you and tell you that financial anxiety is all in your head because, quite frankly, money does make things easier. See, money buys you time. It buys you space. It buys you freedom. But not to be cliche, more money, more problems too, right?
Or more money and the same problems. Because like I said, what is in your bank account doesn't matter as much as how you feel about what's in your bank account. If this is feeling resonant with you, welcome, you are in the right place. Now I'm going to say something that you probably won't believe at first, but if you stick with me, I'm going to show you how to do this. Okay.
Whatever is happening on the outside, you create your reality on the inside. So whatever chaos, money chaos is happening outside, you can protect yourself from the inside. Now, how do you do that? You do that by learning to objectively engage with your thoughts and emotions. What does it mean to objectively engage? Okay, so it is not controlling.
It is not about trying to tell your thoughts and your feelings about money to shut the F up. Because trying to control your thoughts and emotions, it's kind of like trying to push a bouncing ball on the top of a pool. Every time you push it down, what happens, right? Tops back up.
And with our thoughts and emotions, usually that happens at seriously inconvenient times and in inconvenient situations. So my intention with today's episode is to really give you practical exercises so that you can start to observe your emotions and thoughts about money in a nonjudgmental way and maybe even try to inject a little bit of compassion in there because, I mean...
Life is hard enough, right? Why make it harder for yourself? So let's face our broke baggage together, okay? We are going to talk about in the moment strategies that you can implement when you are starting to feel financially anxious. Then I'm going to go over ongoing work, deeper work that you can do to heal your relationship with money and hopefully drop that broke baggage for good.
And then finally, I'll give you some key takeaways on how you can start to spend happier. Ready? Let's dive in. I want you to think of the biggest financial stressor that you have right now. Actually, before you do that, let's take a deep breath together. Wiggle our fingers, wiggle our toes, ground ourselves.
I was going to say shut your eyes, but you might be listening to this while you're driving, so don't do that. Okay, so I want you to think about your biggest financial stressor right now, or maybe a certain behavior or mindset around money that you have that maybe for years has been getting in your way of living life. the life that you want. All right, I'll give you my example.
I am the sole breadwinner in my family right now. And I'm going to be really honest with you. I am just not making enough money. So even though rationally, and I'm putting rational in quotation marks, I know that I can cover our basic needs. I'm not worried that we're going to lose the roof over our head. I have a lot of feelings about what I'm not making right now.
I'm massively disappointed in myself. I feel like I'm letting... My kid's down and I'm extremely worried that I am not going to be able to figure this out soon. Although I'm going to interject here because you might be feeling similar to me. On one side, I do believe that I can figure this out. But on the other side, I have a ton of fear that I won't be able to.
So let me know, is that resonating with you, right? Sometimes we have these conflicting thoughts and feelings, kind of like the devil and the angel on our shoulder, right? These are just different parts of ourselves. And what I want to do with you all is, is learn how to become the conductor of an orchestra.
And instead of all of these instruments, these parts of us kind of yelling and pulling at us, we're gonna make some beautiful music, hopefully. And hopefully that analogy made sense to you. I am gonna walk you through a number of prompts that I want you to use for those in the moment money freak outs.
Okay, so prompt number one, know your triggers because once you know your triggers, you can prepare for them emotionally and logistically. There's something about removing the element of surprise that just helps contain the emotional fallout, right? If you can predict, yeah, I'm probably going to feel a little bit freaked out and it happens, it's not going to freak you out even more.
My triggers include this. No one buys a course after I send out an email trying to sell it. people unsubscribe from my paid subscription, or just randomly at night, I wake up fully in terror that I cannot afford to give my kids what I think they deserve. So here's how I prepare. I just give myself some space.
So knowing that whenever I send out an email to my subscribers and somebody unsubscribes, it's going to make me really nervous that I can't cover the bills for my family. I'm going to take a deep breath and set an alarm for, say, 15 minutes. I call it designated dwell time. I literally give myself the opportunity to freak out, but it's contained. Also, these are micro moments, and...
They don't tell the true story of what actually is happening here. You've got to take a big step back and look holistically at what's going on. So instead of saying, oh my gosh, somebody unsubscribed, I can't make rent. How about we look at the data in the aggregate? So in a given week, a month, a quarter, six months to a year, are we on track to reach our goals?
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