Cole

An issue would come up.

I would be able to listen to Leah very well and understand enough to go to my head to try to like pick up pieces to me, almost like, like a bandaid fix.

All because I realized I wasn't able to open up and just explain like how it felt like in my chest kind of about like the real pain and the fears.

I would say like I kind of let her on, making it seem like the co-parenting I have with my ex was more normal than it was.

Like it's just for our child.

Like there's nothing to worry about.

And there was nothing to worry about.

I just didn't know how to set any boundaries on that side of my life.

no honestly our relationship it was it was very it's a very long relationship and it was it was kind of my one and only relationship so like i don't come from i hadn't came from many experiences yeah so to me i i had no control early on and i never had control and then even when we divorced it just continued that way like i didn't know another way honestly

Like to me, it felt it was under, or it was against like the normal, like I hate to say normal of like an abusive relationship, but I did admit like, it didn't seem like something I could complain or be scared about because I was the older partner and the male and you, to me, I mean, I've only had the one relationship, so it didn't seem like I was actually being like the abused one.

And I am now, like, I do want to say from day one has been like more supportive than, than anyone could have asked for.

I was just, I, it was too much like hoping, like, I think we're all good.

Like, I'm just hoping that she'll, that my, my ex will just leave me alone.

I was hoping that I could go two days without being reached up to.

but Leah has always been there to help me.

Like she gave me so much advice on how and what to do.

I just, I couldn't show up in that way in that moment.

It has came across as like, it has been super helpful because I know there's been moments where I could, I could have just been like, I could just tell her like how this feels right now, but she's always been like, let me know how I can help you.

Or like, if you need to do like, let just like reach out or talk to me.

Yeah.