Cole

a 180 and I agree not to like I've talked a lot of talk and like how I or how Leah's mentioned like the actions haven't really lined up now I'm trying to understand like I I can keep talking but I have like it's a big difference for me that that I know what actions will soon be showing up and in place and hopefully to reassure that it's just not more talk because I know that's what it was in the past

So now it's completely different now.

Like I was just about to say, like, I have like honestly got regained control or honestly not regained.

I've gained control.

I've taken back like what's what is mine.

as of lately and it honestly it's just it's communication through email like a couple times a month maybe and that's honestly it like when I have our child it's private from her mom and then when she has our child it's private for me like it's just complete privacy and it's my relationship with Leah is the priority now and just equal parenting like it has it just hasn't been equal honestly.

I would say it's much like the first thought of yours.

I know it's not the same in each household.

We do one week on and one week off.

It's the same with Leah, with her child and her ex.

But I've learned that I know I'm an amazing dad.

And I know when I have my child, it's the best week ever for both of us.

And then I know when she goes back to the other parent...

it's kind of like I just I just I don't want to say ignore it but I just like I trust that the other parent is being a good parent and I know that there's like I know the TV time is probably different I'm sure the food is probably different and I'm sure like the attitude and the arguments are different but

Like through counseling, I have learned that like I really just have to focus on my my parenting time as a father.

But it's been too easy and way too convenient for us to communicate with each other where like I would never reach out to the other parents, but I was always the one being reached out to.

And I felt a huge obligation there.

I did not have the opportunity to see that.

That is unfortunate.

Was it a good one?