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Being more focused on you than being just as focused on her, if not more so than you.

So that was my ick that night that I,

The sin of ickness.

And she spent the night, nothing really, nothing obviously happened sexually.

Asked her out again, never heard from her.

Clearly she felt like, yeah, this guy's just trying too hard.

Another guy who just wants to get in my pants is probably how she was thinking.

Anyway, who knows?

But man, that was a painful but valuable lesson.

And Katie, or whatever your name is, if you're out there, I'm sorry that I was so focused on what Connell wanted that I wasn't thinking, hey, why don't we just have a Katie Connell win-win night and see what happens?

Something I learned later with a woman who became my girlfriend, became a love of my life,

Um, I remember we didn't have sex and I didn't even try really the first time she came over and she spent the night and it just so happens the next day, she, this other woman basically put the moves on me.

Things went from there in a very organic, mutual way.

And so who knows?

Maybe that would have happened with Katie.

Bottom line is the lesson I want you to know, or the lesson I wish I had known back then, but I've learned it now, is to know that romantic, mutual romantic attraction starts with comfort.

Her comfort is so important, not just because it's good game, but because it's just being a good person.

It starts with letting her, helping her feel comfortable and never allowing her to feel pressured.

Basically, I was making Katie feel pressured.

Okay, those are my five moments of Connell's, quote, creepy past or creepy moments.