Connell Barrett

Okay, make or break moment number four.

Let's go to the first date.

Turning things from friendly to flirty or making sure the date is more than just friendly, it's flirtatious.

In other words, making it what I call man to woman communication.

You know that you have to flirt, right?

But you might not be doing it.

You might be playing it safe.

And I want to share a story about my client, Trevor.

This is in my book.

It's a pretty good story.

So Trevor came to me because he was in the friend zone.

And Trevor had like literally six, seven, eight dates in a row where he heard almost verbatim, hey, you seem like a great guy.

I'm just not feeling it.

from, from women after first dates, like nine out of 10 times he was hearing that or something like that.

And so he and I started working together and I gave him sort of the, the way to, the way to flirt on a first date and the vibe, the channel I call the, the flirting sort of, um, context or frame, I call it man to woman communication.

And you might think that flirting is just about giving a woman one compliment or that if you just make good conversation, good friendly conversation on a date, that hopefully will be enough because she likes you for you.

It might not.

It really might not.

And it wasn't for Trevor.

Trevor was being funny.