Constance (Connie) Hockaday

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249 appearances 1 recordings 1 series first heard Jul 2026 last heard 24 Jul

Constance (Connie) Hockaday’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.

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When I was in my early 20s, I met Captain Betsy.

I was queer, depressed, feeling totally alone in my tiny South Texas town on the Gulf of Mexico.

And by the time Betsy landed in my town, she had been living on homemade rafts for decades with a group called the Floating Neutrinos.

She had captained over a dozen rafts, including one across the Atlantic Ocean.

So obviously, I was very taken by this, not because I wanted to permanently live on a raft, but because I wanted to believe in an extraordinary life.

And Betsy was the first person to ever ask me what it is that I wanted.

So in my life, Betsy modeled for me what it meant to articulate my desires, and in lending her faith to me, she was also giving it back to herself.

It's one of the most important things that's ever happened to me.

Basically, they were the first people to ever ask me what it is that I wanted from this life.

And no one had ever asked me what I wanted.

And I didn't believe that I could live the life that I wanted to live outside of what I understood was what you were supposed to do, right?

Get a job, like whatever.

And it really, really kind of sent me into meltdown mode.

Like, I would cry because I couldn't authentically connect to a feeling of desire for this life that was truly mine.

And Betsy would be like, look, it doesn't matter.

It doesn't matter.

Like...

She's like, you just have to want it, you know.

And so the idea of the three deepest desires is this exercise of defining what it is you authentically desire for this life.

And they become kind of like guideposts.

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