Damien Hughes

So do you remember when he did that exercise

experiment with you about the best friend test and he was getting you to talk about what would your best friend say what is it that's significant and he said that you have to keep going back and asking the question well what is it that i do for you what is it that my presence why are you my friend i'm willing to do that because he says we don't have a language so we'll first of all go out that

I like you, or you make me laugh.

And then eventually you get into those deeper emotive answers where you go, I just feel better being in your company.

You make me feel more optimistic about the world.

And he said, but I...

our emotions often don't have a language attached to it.

So we feel them before we can articulate them.

So the idea of being able to take them and name them and label them gets it out of our head and allows us to be able to explore it and address it.

So again, another great example is we referenced Steve Peters and he gave that example of if you give somebody two bowls, they can juggle it.

Give them three, they'll start to struggle.

Anything over four, most people will start to drop it.

Yeah.

And he talks about our emotions are like those balls.

They're in our head and they're constantly there, bouncing around.

So our ability to get them out on the page or articulate them to somebody else allows us to then be able to then bring our logical brain to it and go, so what do I plan to do with this?

How do I plan to address it?

So emotion of, so fear is our emotion showing up.

And if we can give it a label,

And often think about it in more subtle ways.