Damien Hughes

No, it's the first one.

So it's the idea of saying yes to everything because it comes from that place of fear, of insecurity or sometimes not being able to provide or, like I say, sometimes not worried about being relevant or being useful.

So saying yes to everything has led to me being busy and then I found myself catching myself telling people, I'm really busy.

And I realised that I was wearing it almost as a badge of honour.

Oh, I'm busy.

Look how useful I am.

Look that I'm doing what I should be doing.

And I realised that...

It actually wasn't a good thing.

I realised that I was diminishing myself while I was trying to blow my own tyres up.

So I made a promise.

My micro habit was to stop telling people I'm busy and start saying I'm productive or I'm working on things that I'm enjoying.

And say no?

Yes, yeah, yeah, very much.

And getting into the habit of just going, no, I don't want to be busy doing it.

I want to enjoy doing it.

Or I don't feel that I can do that in a stress-free way.

that it would diminish for me.

So trying to get into that habit is almost inspired by this conversation that we had with Jamila Jamil.

We've heard it from Jamila, we've heard it from Vicky Patterson a couple of years before, of always feeling that you've got to be on the go, you've got to be busy, you've got to be constantly present, and that takes its toll.