Dan Savage

But the next thing out of her mouth seems to be based on your accounting of the exchanges that you've had with her after you killed her dog seemed to be that you owe her the monogamous commitment that she wanted all along. Or wanted at the start because you killed her dog.

But the next thing out of her mouth seems to be based on your accounting of the exchanges that you've had with her after you killed her dog seemed to be that you owe her the monogamous commitment that she wanted all along. Or wanted at the start because you killed her dog.

And I'm sorry, I don't want to say this about someone who's grieving the death of their dog at the hands or car of the person that they love. But that seems to me emotionally manipulative. That seems to me slightly opportunistic. Unless, you know, to be a little bit more generous, what she might be saying is right now while she's grieving,

And I'm sorry, I don't want to say this about someone who's grieving the death of their dog at the hands or car of the person that they love. But that seems to me emotionally manipulative. That seems to me slightly opportunistic. Unless, you know, to be a little bit more generous, what she might be saying is right now while she's grieving,

the death of her dog that you killed, she needs to be your sole focus.

the death of her dog that you killed, she needs to be your sole focus.

And if that's the conversation that she wants to have and you're leaving that out, I don't see why at this moment you couldn't come through with, particularly as you don't have another partner, centering this relationship for, I don't know, the next three months, six months, while you work through the pain and the guilt and the grief and the horror of the death of her dog. at your hand's car.

And if that's the conversation that she wants to have and you're leaving that out, I don't see why at this moment you couldn't come through with, particularly as you don't have another partner, centering this relationship for, I don't know, the next three months, six months, while you work through the pain and the guilt and the grief and the horror of the death of her dog. at your hand's car.

That seems to me, if that's the ask that she's made a reasonable ask, but if it's a gambit now, you know, if she settled for polyamory and it wasn't what she wanted and she's instrumentalizing the death of the dog or leveraging the death of the dog to get you to make the commitment you didn't want to make in the first place, well then obviously this relationship isn't going to work out.

That seems to me, if that's the ask that she's made a reasonable ask, but if it's a gambit now, you know, if she settled for polyamory and it wasn't what she wanted and she's instrumentalizing the death of the dog or leveraging the death of the dog to get you to make the commitment you didn't want to make in the first place, well then obviously this relationship isn't going to work out.

But if what she wants at this moment is for you to temporarily focus all of your energies, emotional and sexual, on each other as you process the death of her dog, that's a reasonable ask. And you could maybe, and I think you owe her that.

But if what she wants at this moment is for you to temporarily focus all of your energies, emotional and sexual, on each other as you process the death of her dog, that's a reasonable ask. And you could maybe, and I think you owe her that.

But if what she's asking for is what you didn't want to give her in the first place, what you couldn't give her because it's not commitment you can't do, it's monogamy you can't do. What she's asking you for now is the monogamous commitment that you didn't want to make and conflated somehow with an inability to make a commitment at all.

But if what she's asking for is what you didn't want to give her in the first place, what you couldn't give her because it's not commitment you can't do, it's monogamy you can't do. What she's asking you for now is the monogamous commitment that you didn't want to make and conflated somehow with an inability to make a commitment at all.

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