Dan Savage

And if that's the conversation that she wants to have and you're leaving that out, I don't see why at this moment you couldn't come through with, particularly as you don't have another partner, centering this relationship for, I don't know, the next three months, six months, while you work through the pain and the guilt and the grief and the horror of the death of her dog. at your hand's car.

That seems to me, if that's the ask that she's made a reasonable ask, but if it's a gambit now, you know, if she settled for polyamory and it wasn't what she wanted and she's instrumentalizing the death of the dog or leveraging the death of the dog to get you to make the commitment you didn't want to make in the first place, well then obviously this relationship isn't going to work out.

That seems to me, if that's the ask that she's made a reasonable ask, but if it's a gambit now, you know, if she settled for polyamory and it wasn't what she wanted and she's instrumentalizing the death of the dog or leveraging the death of the dog to get you to make the commitment you didn't want to make in the first place, well then obviously this relationship isn't going to work out.

But if what she wants at this moment is for you to temporarily focus all of your energies, emotional and sexual, on each other as you process the death of her dog, that's a reasonable ask. And you could maybe, and I think you owe her that.

But if what she wants at this moment is for you to temporarily focus all of your energies, emotional and sexual, on each other as you process the death of her dog, that's a reasonable ask. And you could maybe, and I think you owe her that.

But if what she's asking for is what you didn't want to give her in the first place, what you couldn't give her because it's not commitment you can't do, it's monogamy you can't do. What she's asking you for now is the monogamous commitment that you didn't want to make and conflated somehow with an inability to make a commitment at all.

But if what she's asking for is what you didn't want to give her in the first place, what you couldn't give her because it's not commitment you can't do, it's monogamy you can't do. What she's asking you for now is the monogamous commitment that you didn't want to make and conflated somehow with an inability to make a commitment at all.

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joining me to help tackle this question, because why not? Des Bishop is a touring comedian whose newest special, of all people, is out now on YouTube. Hey, Des, thank you for coming on the show. Oh, it's great to be here. Lovely to virtually meet you. I saw your special and wanted to have you on.