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Lots of people go to sex parties, sex clubs, public sex environments to look for people that they've never met before who might want to have sex with them and to approach people in these environments that they're attracted to and hit on them. But you can go to a public sex environment. You can go to a sex party. You can go to a sex club. And you can bring a date.

Lots of people go to sex parties, sex clubs, public sex environments to look for people that they've never met before who might want to have sex with them and to approach people in these environments that they're attracted to and hit on them. But you can go to a public sex environment. You can go to a sex party. You can go to a sex club. And you can bring a date.

And you can go in there and just have sex with each other in this erotically charged environment where you're just showing off, maybe taking in some other people, where you're being the voyeur and the exhibitionist. And still... not having sex with anybody else, plowing all of that sexual energy and arousal and eroticism right into your monogamous partner.

And you can go in there and just have sex with each other in this erotically charged environment where you're just showing off, maybe taking in some other people, where you're being the voyeur and the exhibitionist. And still... not having sex with anybody else, plowing all of that sexual energy and arousal and eroticism right into your monogamous partner.

That is definitely a thing that people do. That is not an unrealistic expectation to have. What is going to happen in this environment is once you enter this environment, this is a place where you are – by entering this environment, you are signaling to others that you may – because most people in that environment are open to fucking around with other people that they don't know or just met.

That is definitely a thing that people do. That is not an unrealistic expectation to have. What is going to happen in this environment is once you enter this environment, this is a place where you are – by entering this environment, you are signaling to others that you may – because most people in that environment are open to fucking around with other people that they don't know or just met.

So you and your partner may have to – say no to people who have expectations or hopes. They saw you, you're hot. They think, ah, I hope I can get with them. And they may approach you and you'll have to tell them that they can't get with you. And you're not violating a social obligation.

So you and your partner may have to – say no to people who have expectations or hopes. They saw you, you're hot. They think, ah, I hope I can get with them. And they may approach you and you'll have to tell them that they can't get with you. And you're not violating a social obligation.

You are violating, and not violating, you are swimming against the current of the social norm in that environment where most of the people in that environment are open to play with others, with strangers, with people they didn't arrive with. But no one in a public sex environment, no one in a sex club, no one at a sex party is obligated to sleep with anyone that they don't want to sleep with.

You are violating, and not violating, you are swimming against the current of the social norm in that environment where most of the people in that environment are open to play with others, with strangers, with people they didn't arrive with. But no one in a public sex environment, no one in a sex club, no one at a sex party is obligated to sleep with anyone that they don't want to sleep with.

And if you and your girlfriend don't want to fuck around with anybody else, you don't have to. All that said, who knows? You might be inspired to the potential danger here, potential conflict is that one of you will want to, and the other won't.

And if you and your girlfriend don't want to fuck around with anybody else, you don't have to. All that said, who knows? You might be inspired to the potential danger here, potential conflict is that one of you will want to, and the other won't.

And one will be angry that the other was tempted or wanted to, or wanted to renegotiate the terms of what you guys were interested in doing or available to do while you were in the sex club. So before you go, if you're going in only to play with each other, you have to swear to each other that even if tempted while you're in the space in the moment that night,

And one will be angry that the other was tempted or wanted to, or wanted to renegotiate the terms of what you guys were interested in doing or available to do while you were in the sex club. So before you go, if you're going in only to play with each other, you have to swear to each other that even if tempted while you're in the space in the moment that night,

If one of you is tempted or Yahtzee, both of you are tempted, you're not going to bring it up. You're not going to renegotiate your terms, the agreement that you two made entering that space.

If one of you is tempted or Yahtzee, both of you are tempted, you're not going to bring it up. You're not going to renegotiate your terms, the agreement that you two made entering that space.