Dan Savage

When you talk to women who are married to closeted gay men, you rarely hear we had a great sex life. Usually the sex was lousy and the woman for years couldn't figure out why it was lousy, thought maybe the problem was her, may have been encouraged to believe the problem was her by her lying closeted husband.

I can't imagine in the wake of your parents' divorce and with how traumatized your mother was, you didn't end up having deep, dark, night of the soul conversations with your mom about what her marriage to your dad was like. What data do you have there? I'm imagining that if your mom shared anything with you, Odds are what you heard from your mom was she and your dad had not a great sex life.

I can't imagine in the wake of your parents' divorce and with how traumatized your mother was, you didn't end up having deep, dark, night of the soul conversations with your mom about what her marriage to your dad was like. What data do you have there? I'm imagining that if your mom shared anything with you, Odds are what you heard from your mom was she and your dad had not a great sex life.

So the fact that you and your husband have a great sex life, I think that argues against your husband being a closeted gay man. The things your husband telling you right now. interested in jerking off with another dude. Okay, maybe he's just into dick, disembodied dick.

So the fact that you and your husband have a great sex life, I think that argues against your husband being a closeted gay man. The things your husband telling you right now. interested in jerking off with another dude. Okay, maybe he's just into dick, disembodied dick.

But also that he says he's curious about an MFM three-way and perhaps during that MFM three-way, some incidental contact between him and the other man. Well, that kind of points toward possibly bi. And since you're okay with him being bi, bi is the ultimate answer to the question here.

But also that he says he's curious about an MFM three-way and perhaps during that MFM three-way, some incidental contact between him and the other man. Well, that kind of points toward possibly bi. And since you're okay with him being bi, bi is the ultimate answer to the question here.

then I would encourage you to do what you're doing, to tell your husband to go get out there, find a guy who wants to hang out with him and be his jerk-off buddy and watch straight porn and be bros and blow loads.

then I would encourage you to do what you're doing, to tell your husband to go get out there, find a guy who wants to hang out with him and be his jerk-off buddy and watch straight porn and be bros and blow loads.

And maybe if you are interested, you didn't say whether you were interested or not, but if you're interested and the right other M comes along, having that MFM three-way with your husband, and then see. Maybe your husband is coming to the realization or will come to the realization that he's had a reflexible or straight identified, but into dick or bi.

And maybe if you are interested, you didn't say whether you were interested or not, but if you're interested and the right other M comes along, having that MFM three-way with your husband, and then see. Maybe your husband is coming to the realization or will come to the realization that he's had a reflexible or straight identified, but into dick or bi.

And according to you, all three of those options are acceptable to you. Just the gay thing. It's not acceptable to you. And I totally understand that. And again, if you guys have a great sex life, odds are really good. He's not gay. But all signs at this moment in your marriage point to not a hundred percent straight either.

And according to you, all three of those options are acceptable to you. Just the gay thing. It's not acceptable to you. And I totally understand that. And again, if you guys have a great sex life, odds are really good. He's not gay. But all signs at this moment in your marriage point to not a hundred percent straight either.

This could be the beginning of a whole new era in your marital sex life with hot, sexy adventures that you and your husband go on together that revitalize your sex life, revitalize your sexual connection, you're going to have to sit with the uncertainty right now. You're not going to have an answer to the question that you'd like to have. Is my husband bi?

This could be the beginning of a whole new era in your marital sex life with hot, sexy adventures that you and your husband go on together that revitalize your sex life, revitalize your sexual connection, you're going to have to sit with the uncertainty right now. You're not going to have an answer to the question that you'd like to have. Is my husband bi?

Because we can't cut his head open and read the entrails. You're going to have to wait and see. As you know, ED is a topic that comes up a lot on this show. Your sex life is important. That's why I recommend HIMSS so you can feel confident knowing you can get hard and stay hard whenever you're in the mood. HIMSS is changing men's health care. Bye-bye.

Because we can't cut his head open and read the entrails. You're going to have to wait and see. As you know, ED is a topic that comes up a lot on this show. Your sex life is important. That's why I recommend HIMSS so you can feel confident knowing you can get hard and stay hard whenever you're in the mood. HIMSS is changing men's health care. Bye-bye.

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