Dan Savage

But what she might want in that moment is to feel like you are – enjoying it and enjoying her and taking your pleasure which you are allowed to do which you are supposed to do which your sex partners if they're there for all the right reasons want you to do and then you can also walk and fucking chew gum perform for them if that's what they want but you got to listen to them about what they want

You may wind up in bed sometimes. I've had sex with guys. It's easy for guys. We always know when we've come. And guys are pretty much experts on getting there. But I've had sex with guys where it was great. It was awesome. One of us came and the other one was like, you know what? I don't need to come right now.

You may wind up in bed sometimes. I've had sex with guys. It's easy for guys. We always know when we've come. And guys are pretty much experts on getting there. But I've had sex with guys where it was great. It was awesome. One of us came and the other one was like, you know what? I don't need to come right now.

And you just cuddle, then you smile and relax and tell them you'll get them next time, or they can get you next time and roll with it and always be focused on what's really important, which is the connection and the pleasure, not the collection of orgasms.

And you just cuddle, then you smile and relax and tell them you'll get them next time, or they can get you next time and roll with it and always be focused on what's really important, which is the connection and the pleasure, not the collection of orgasms.

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this episode is brought to you by helix sleep the makers of the mattress in our bedroom in our guest room and my boyfriend's bedroom too the helix mattress perfect for poly people perfect for monogamous people too the helix lineup offers 20 unique mattresses including the award-winning luxe collection that's ours that's the mattress we have the newly released helix elite collection

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Right now, Helix is offering 25% off all mattress orders and two free pillows for our listeners. We've emailed Helix to let them know that two pillows, a little mononormative. Sometimes there's three people in a relationship. They're going to get back to us on that. We'll let you know what they say.

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Gonna have a little intervention here first. Why aren't you out to your husband about being bisexual? Bisexuals often have, tend to have, worse mental health outcomes, physical health outcomes than monosexuals, than gays, lesbians, and straight people.

Gonna have a little intervention here first. Why aren't you out to your husband about being bisexual? Bisexuals often have, tend to have, worse mental health outcomes, physical health outcomes than monosexuals, than gays, lesbians, and straight people.

And the thing that correlates most strongly with poor mental health outcomes is the pressures and strain of the closet, of being married to someone who doesn't know you're bi and feeling like you have to hide from that person. All your life.

And the thing that correlates most strongly with poor mental health outcomes is the pressures and strain of the closet, of being married to someone who doesn't know you're bi and feeling like you have to hide from that person. All your life.

I wrote an article once a million years ago when I had been accused of being biphobic and I don't think anyone who actually listens to me talk about this shit on this show would think I'm biphobic. But I opened this piece with I'm not biphobic. In fact, I love bisexual people so much I wish there were more of them.