Dan Savage

It could last six weeks, eight weeks. It could run its course of its own natural accord as most early new, just hooking up, keeping it casual relationships do. And he wouldn't have to disclose this to you. So you can regard his failure to disclose as a bad sign. Because he withheld this.

It could last six weeks, eight weeks. It could run its course of its own natural accord as most early new, just hooking up, keeping it casual relationships do. And he wouldn't have to disclose this to you. So you can regard his failure to disclose as a bad sign. Because he withheld this.

Now, I think three months is a perfectly reasonable time frame to disclose something that might impact whether somebody else wanted to continue to make a large emotional investment in you and the relationship. I think 12 weeks in is a pretty good time. So I would let this play out.

Now, I think three months is a perfectly reasonable time frame to disclose something that might impact whether somebody else wanted to continue to make a large emotional investment in you and the relationship. I think 12 weeks in is a pretty good time. So I would let this play out.

It's possible, based on what you've told me about what he's told you, that he may decide to stick around with his ex, wherever the fuck his ex happens to be, and the new baby, to help out and maybe to do a little co-parenting. And who knows? Maybe they'll get back together for... The convenience of at least being together for the first year or so.

It's possible, based on what you've told me about what he's told you, that he may decide to stick around with his ex, wherever the fuck his ex happens to be, and the new baby, to help out and maybe to do a little co-parenting. And who knows? Maybe they'll get back together for... The convenience of at least being together for the first year or so.

And then this won't be a decision that you have to make. This will be taken out of your hands. And then what did you have? What did you have? You had a great three-month relationship with a lot of really hot sex with a guy who turned out to have a bit more complicated of a backstory than you realized. But who did tell you? He did disclose it.

And then this won't be a decision that you have to make. This will be taken out of your hands. And then what did you have? What did you have? You had a great three-month relationship with a lot of really hot sex with a guy who turned out to have a bit more complicated of a backstory than you realized. But who did tell you? He did disclose it.

Again, three months in, which seems a perfectly reasonable time to disclose it. Yeah. But what do you do? I think you play it by ear. If he comes back and you want to continue to date him, great. You say that you would have been open to dating somebody who was a single parent, somebody who had a child with another person, another woman.

Again, three months in, which seems a perfectly reasonable time to disclose it. Yeah. But what do you do? I think you play it by ear. If he comes back and you want to continue to date him, great. You say that you would have been open to dating somebody who was a single parent, somebody who had a child with another person, another woman.

And now you can prove that that's true by continuing to date this guy. But if you've never dated somebody who is a new parent and co-parenting with somebody else, the complications may be too great for you. And the his divided focus. You know, the three months you were together, you were his sole focus.

And now you can prove that that's true by continuing to date this guy. But if you've never dated somebody who is a new parent and co-parenting with somebody else, the complications may be too great for you. And the his divided focus. You know, the three months you were together, you were his sole focus.

Once that baby comes and it is the infant relay race, particularly if he's going to be an involved parent, you won't be the sole focus. And if you want a partnership,

Once that baby comes and it is the infant relay race, particularly if he's going to be an involved parent, you won't be the sole focus. And if you want a partnership,

course him parenting with this woman is going to create a financial burden for him in the form of child support if they don't live together and that may you know if you're paying child support may act as an incentive if he's on the fence about that relationship to get back together with him just for the simplicity sake of being in the same place at the same time to take care of this kid and them being able to share the burden and the expense of it equally

course him parenting with this woman is going to create a financial burden for him in the form of child support if they don't live together and that may you know if you're paying child support may act as an incentive if he's on the fence about that relationship to get back together with him just for the simplicity sake of being in the same place at the same time to take care of this kid and them being able to share the burden and the expense of it equally

Yeah, I don't think this is ultimately a decision you're going to have to take. This is a decision that is going to be taken for you. And I'm going to come down on the side of him waiting three months to tell you about this. Was a yellow flag, a proceed with caution, but still potentially possibly proceed.

Yeah, I don't think this is ultimately a decision you're going to have to take. This is a decision that is going to be taken for you. And I'm going to come down on the side of him waiting three months to tell you about this. Was a yellow flag, a proceed with caution, but still potentially possibly proceed.

I think you should let the pigs pay you. Before you start letting the pigs pay you, you need to do a quick how comfortable with any small degree of risk are you? I don't think the risk is financial. I don't think somebody's going to be able to reverse engineer or engage in a low forensic accounting and find their way to your bank account and steal all your money.

I think you should let the pigs pay you. Before you start letting the pigs pay you, you need to do a quick how comfortable with any small degree of risk are you? I don't think the risk is financial. I don't think somebody's going to be able to reverse engineer or engage in a low forensic accounting and find their way to your bank account and steal all your money.