Darby Saxbe

We have gone from your job as a parent is just to keep kids alive to your job is to curate kids' experiences, run their extracurricular schedule.

Yeah.

optimize their learning.

Right.

And so like both moms and dads are spending more time on child care than they did in previous generations.

Yeah.

So I think that's part of it, too.

And it's the more affluent parents that are the most intensive and the most invested.

Yeah, I'm a better dad than I am a mom.

I'm lucky because I have a husband with a flexible schedule who actually does a lot.

But I definitely resonate.

And I think a lot of moms feel like that.

Like if I could just be the fun parent and sort of swoop in, like be the traditional dad.

Yeah.

That's actually a really great role.

So it's a mix of biology and culture, right?

So like...

We know that men, and you see this even in primates, tend to be more active physical playmates with kids.

Even gorillas will like, you know, pick kids up, chase them around, be like, it's called proprioceptive touch, moving a baby around in space if you think about tossing a toddler up in the air and catching them.

So I think a lot of human men gravitate to that style of parenting as well, like roughhousing.