David Kessler

It's real.

Little by little, she's having to say goodbye to him.

Each one of those moments is a grief in itself.

Anticipatory grief is what's going to happen when he dies and that they're anticipating that very slowly, which is the most painful kind, practically.

And to understand, be present, grieve each of those moments, and don't attend the funeral early.

He's still here.

Those moments will mean a lot.

And the biggest thing, I always say this to caregivers and care partners, get support.

And if anyone out there has a friend that's dealing with an illness, take them to lunch, bring them lunch, bring them groceries, take them out, give them a 15-minute break to take a walk.

Yeah, you have to have people in your life or find them, whether it's online.

We have anticipatory grief groups, caregiver groups.

There's a million things out there.

You have to have people that you can go to and say,

you can't talk anymore today.

And you got to be able to process that and feel it and do it with other people.

It comes down to anticipatory grief, just like other grief needs to be witnessed.

You think you don't know how to help your friend?

Just listen.

Just listen.

That's how you help them.