Dawn Huebner

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Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children · TPP 113: Psychologist Dr. Dawn Huebner on Helping Children Who Worry Too Much · 19 Jun 2018 podcast

Yeah, you know, most typically it's um if a child uh suddenly dislikes something that they used to like.

You know, they used to be okay going to an activity and then they're not it okay anymore, or they start asking lots and lots of questions, or they develop stomach aches or other physical symptoms before they need to do something.

I think parents are often very much aware that their kids are feeling anxious even when the child isn't necessarily aware.

Right, but it's common.

I mean y yes, parents often feel bad after the fact, but it's really understandable.

You know, we wanna

take what our kids are saying a as if it is fully accurate and true and we want to support our children.

So it's understandable to kind of walk for a a ways down a worry road with a child before you realize that's what you're doing.

And that leads to something that's really important that I I touched on when I was talking about my own situation with my son, and that is that the kinds of things that we're inclined to do as loving and supportive parents, so things like reassuring or allowing our children to step out of uncomfortable situations.

Those turn out to be the things that strengthen anxiety, that feed anxiety.

Well, because they bring so much relief.

So let's say, um let's say you have a concern about germs and so you start becoming very careful about washing your hands and about touching things and about making sure that everybody else touches their hands.

And so um you begin policing the rest of your family about hand washing.

And so let's say you're a ch a child in that situation and you see your mom preparing a meal and you ask her, Did you wash your hands?

So it seems normal for a parent to reassure, Yes, I did wash my hands, but by answering that question with a reassurance.

you're strengthening the anxiety by stepping into this notion that it's important for you to be monitoring and so I'm going to answer and there really is a danger here and so I'm gonna engage with you about this content.

So when you're kind of accommodating and overly reassuring, it ends up empowering the anxiety.

And that can be hard to understand because when parents reassure or accommodate their children's anxiety, right in the moment their child feels relief.

So it seems like the right thing to do, but it's really stepping into this loop.

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