Dawn Huebner

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Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children · TPP 113: Psychologist Dr. Dawn Huebner on Helping Children Who Worry Too Much · 19 Jun 2018 podcast

And externalizing anxiety means to think about your worry kind of like it's a little creature, like it's

It's a little bug or pest or bully, something separate from you.

And when you listen to your worry and you obey it, you follow the rules that it sets up, you're empowering it.

And when you challenge it or push back against it,

you're ultimately reducing it.

And when both parents and children have that basic understanding, it becomes possible for parents to say things to kids like, you know, if I answer that question, I'm going to be feeding your worry, or I know your worry wants you to think X, but your worry is not the boss of this.

So it gives them a way to still be empathic with their children without inadvertent.

feeding the anxiety.

Right.

So kids definitely need support to do that.

And that's one of the reasons why my books are most effective when a parent is doing them along with a child.

So kids get some benefit from intellectually understanding the kinds of things that we're talking about, but they get substantially more benefit from actually implementing them.

And the the books kind of walk kids through how to do that, or if kids are in therapy, they often get walked through how to do that.

But ultimately they need someone like a parent who's there in the moment reminding them, okay, this is a time to use a strategy, this is a time to talk back against your worry, you don't need to let your worry be the boss of this.

So kids need help figuring out how to do it in real time.

I find that once kids have had some amount of experience with not immediately capitulating to what their worry is telling them, things kind of click for them and they're able to see, oh yeah, this is just a feeling that I have, or this is just a th a set of thoughts I'm having right now, and I don't need to obey this or I don't need to do whatever my worry is telling me.

And then they begin to be able to be more independent in terms of using the skill set or using the strategies on their own.

Right.

That's right.

So looking for evidence is a really useful strategy, but it's important to remember that worry wants certainty.

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