Deb Proctor
speaker
90 appearances
1 recordings
1 series
first heard Jan 2025
last heard Jan 2025
Deb Proctor’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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I just had so much pain and confusion. I got on my knees. I leaned into a chair and I just kept praying and asking for help. And just, if you can get me on my feet, I will go forward. I will keep my sobriety. I promise, I promise. I made a commitment to live life, to help others, to be the best person I can, to be loving, kind.
I mean, those were the things I'd always been, but I was not going to let this make me harsh and hateful.
You know, we often talk of spiritual awakenings. I feel like I've had a few in my life, but that was profound. Profound. And when I stood up, you know, I was still crying, but I wasn't suffering as much. I didn't feel the pain as deep at the betrayal or shock. And I knew that when I stood up that it was something greater than me. It said, get up. You got work to do.
I made a commitment to do that in that moment, and I've never turned back, and I've never tried to rewrite the story. And I don't want to live in bitterness. I still wanted to be open-hearted and help others. And that's what set the tone for the years to where we are today. She's now 11 years sober. I maintain sobriety.
I was dedicated to my meetings and I was dedicated to the spiritual journey and dealing with my loss and grief and shock.
I would say you've still got to stay working on your emotional health because it's a tough service. What I know for sure is that we can't help others adequately or appropriately if we haven't began our own work to heal. I feel like I'm more effective in these last years because of all the work I've done.
It was a sense of relief. But also all the emotions that flood into that moment, you just have to hold them.
I just recently married on September 7th, and I never saw it coming. Both of us are nevers. And it was the most beautiful wedding outdoors overlooking the lake. It was just beautiful, romantic, just wonderful.
He is also sober. Him, 40-something years. Both of us love golf. Both of us love music. It's just a blessing for us both. We feel so grateful. It's too bad we're meeting each other at 70 and 67, but here we are.
If my story could help others identify lies from their partner earlier, that's one part. The real part is we can hear and we can have a good life and we can live well. The trauma and the pain and the suffering and the sorrow, we have the potential to just be an amazing human on the other side. Leave your heart open, love others, help others, learn boundaries, set limits.
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