Deborah Kat

Exactly.

And there's a lot of things like, sometimes we don't even realize that, like, oh, I'm not enjoying this.

So there's that.

There's not having the kind of sex that feels good to your body and just kind of going along with it.

And there's not putting quality attention on your sex.

And what I mean by that is it's like, you know, I'll say to my clients, it's like, okay, you need to put some time on the calendar.

And they roll their eyes at me and they're like, date night?

That never works.

And it's like, well, okay, let's just back up a second.

we're not just talking date night, we're talking, you know, you put attention there, you make a plan, you create an atmosphere, you know, you think back to, like, do you have date night panties on?

Um, you know, are you actually putting the kind of quality attention there that you did when you began?

And, you know, it's not going to be the same.

But there's a different way that you can discover things.

And I'll have to say one more thing that I will add that wasn't necessarily on my top three, but it's one of the things that I really learned from the wedding was having a project together.

can be amazing.

Communication, conversation, creativity, all sorts of, you know, fun things like, and what's funny is so back in the day, we used to go to Burning Man.

And, you know, Burning Man is a deal.

And so you're going out into the desert, you're bringing all your stuff.

There's all sorts of environmental things to consider.

There's all sorts of emotional things to consider.